Wellness

[meallen616]

[nana59]

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@CareBears wrote:

@I am still oxox I feel your pain, I am so sorry that you both are feeling this way!

I too have my share of physical and mental ailments that prevent me from leaving the house for weeks at a time, and last night I was looking forward to just running to the Dollar Tree so I could be out among people and not stuck inside the house lonely and depressed, and then my husband called and told me he was going to be late getting home because of work, my heart sank!

Today I am just exhausted physically and mentally, and have no way out of our situation either due to insurance limitations and lack of family.

I wish we lived closer to one another so we could have each other to lean on for support, I find when my husband and I spend too much time together (never leaving the home) we tend to get on each other's nerves when there seems to be no escape.

Hang in there, you are not alone, and please know that I care if that helps any?

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I, too, don't leave my house for weeks at a time....yesterday my husband was driving me to get x-rays and bloodwork done for my new arthritis doctor  i have had the paperwork for a week.....what resulted was a terrible accident-someone cut in front of us--my car was totalled and we both spent the afternoon in the emergency room....we were lucky.....but bruised ribs are incredibly painful.......just beside myself.....

[Sooner]

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@Mz iMac wrote:

"not sure it is covered by insurance."

Why haven't called your ins co & asked?  Or get a friend or family member to do so for you?

"as far as I know there are limited resources of help in this area."

Call your local Social Service Department or get a friend or family member to do it.  If you and/or hubby are seniors call your local Senior Citizen Services. 

You should consider "Meals On Wheels" for your aging parent.

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I understand well what she is talking about.  MANY MANY places in this country don't have Meals on Wheels or basically any other services for seniors.   It is terrible, but it is a fact of life.  You can contact county health services and should probably qualify for some home health, but often to be frank they are pretty useless.  Check with your doc. too.

[noodleann]

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@I am still oxox wrote:
My Dad would never eat meals on wheels he has a very limited diet and that would still not change my shopping for him and visiting him

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So you've decided not to change anything about that part of the problem. Okay.

[Mz iMac]

"As I said before we do not belong to a church"

You do not have to "belong" to get the help you need.  The services  offered are not restricted to "members."

[I am still oxox]

We are 62 and undr private insuranc, why do you think everyone is a senior. He is in excellant helth and not declining in any way shape or form

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@tucsongal wrote:

In addition to home health services that I mentioned above, if your husband truly is unable to be safe at home or is declining, he should be eligible for direct admission to a rehab or skilled nursing facility. Were options/needs discussed at all before he came home? Again, these are covered services by Medicare. 

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[I am still oxox]

No it can not be changed he will not eat Meals on Wheels, he is a picky man and has alwyas been that way 

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@noodleann wrote:

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@I am still oxox wrote:
My Dad would never eat meals on wheels he has a very limited diet and that would still not change my shopping for him and visiting him

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So you've decided not to change anything about that part of the problem. Okay.

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[Sooner]

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@noodleann wrote:

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@I am still oxox wrote:
My Dad would never eat meals on wheels he has a very limited diet and that would still not change my shopping for him and visiting him

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So you've decided not to change anything about that part of the problem. Okay.

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That's an awfully cold answer.  YOU try making people eat something they don't want; or feeding something that they can't eat.  YOU try dealing with an elderly person that has their own thoughts about how things are going to be.  You can be in a position where they won't cooperate, yet here you are responsible for them but can't make them do anything.  You have the responsibility without the authority.  THAT is a bad place to be--been there done that myself.

The OP sounds like she is running herself and working herself to death dealing with problems she cant really fix or do much to aleviate.  You just feel like you want to scream sometimes because of the things you "ought" to do and can't, or HAVE to do and can't.  Sometimes all the help in the world can't fix it because the people involved aren't going to help you out.  

Some of you I'm sure are nodding in agreement. . . 

[tucsongal]

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@I am still oxox wrote:

We are 62 and undr private insuranc, why do you think everyone is a senior. He is in excellant helth and not declining in any way shape or form

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@tucsongal wrote:

In addition to home health services that I mentioned above, if your husband truly is unable to be safe at home or is declining, he should be eligible for direct admission to a rehab or skilled nursing facility. Were options/needs discussed at all before he came home? Again, these are covered services by Medicare. 

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I'm not sure if you saw at my apology above. Again, I'm very sorry for my assumption. What I meant by declining is that if someone comes home after surgery and struggles/doesn't progress as anticipated, they may be eligible to go inpatient for services. (This is an example only, may not fit your situation at all). I certainly did not mean to offend you, but I have a lot of knowledge about home care and was trying to help. I'm very sorry that you are having such a difficult time and I wish you the best. 

[DianeJ2]

@I am still oxoxSending you hugs....been here myself. I have fibromyalgia and took care of my homebound dad. Every other week I froze some of his meals I made for him, so I could reheat to have a small  break. Small breaks are everything. You are doing the best you can for them, they are blessed to have you.