Thanksgiving pie-how to be honest with a guest - Page 6

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

@drizzellla wrote:
I do not know the "right" answer. BUT here is what I would do. Say nothing. Make the pies that your guests and you will eat.

She brings her pumpkin chiffon pie. And when she is leaving send the uneaten pumpkin chiffon pie home with her.

I always send leftover turkey or other items home with my guests. And sending the pie home with her would be a great way to get rid of it. Maybe her eating the entire pie herself will make her tire of it.

Wow, that's mean and nasty for no reason. You have it half right. Let her bring whatever pie she chooses. If she WANTS to take her pie home with her, fine but I would not in a million years give it back to her. If no one is going to eat it, I'd just toss it out in a day or two. People bring all sorts of things to Thanksgiving dinners and whoever is hosting ends up tossing out half of it out.

Maltichonmom17 · ‎04-22-2010

First off, no such thing as too much pie 😋

If this was my situation, I’d make my own traditional pumpkin pie and graciously set out her pie with my pumpkin pie and the other desserts. Maybe she dislikes the traditional pumpkin pie or just really loves her pumpkin chiffon pie or feels like that is her Thanksgiving specialty. Either way, everyone present is happy and has their choice of yummy, delicious pie.

RetRN · ‎10-01-2013

I'd let her bring it and then send it back home with her. She sounds like a "gem" of a sister to me.

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

Some posters are disregarding the OP's desire to maintain a pleasant relationship with her sister. She needs to avoid hurting her sister's feelings or causing anger/hard feelings. Making a pumpkin pie would be risky. Insisting she take her pie home would be horrible manners. A gracious host would eat a small portion of her sister's pie.

tsavorite · ‎03-09-2010

@occasionalrain wrote:
Some posters are disregarding the OP's desire to maintain a pleasant relationship with her sister. She needs to avoid hurting her sister's feelings or causing anger/hard feelings. Making a pumpkin pie would be risky. Insisting she take her pie home would be horrible manners. A gracious host would eat a small portion of her sister's pie.

THis applies to her sister also IMO...her sister could care less how she feels about it and is offending her. I don't eat things I don't like that anyone brings to my home or at their home. As a hostess myself I NEVER would expect ANYONE to ever force themselves to eat something they don't like or want. Come and eat what you enjoy and there is nothing to be upset about.

Booksamillion · ‎11-06-2018

I have sisters too.let her bring the pie.

blackhole99 · ‎08-22-2013

My cousin's girlfriend will always bring the same dessert to a family gathering and nobody eats it. I guess it doesn't bother her that no one eats it or maybe that's the only dessert she knows how to make.

Lilysmom · ‎03-09-2010

@petepetey, I wanted to share my experience. For years, cousins of DH have joined our family for Christmas dinner. One lady brings sweet potatoes every year. No one eats them. Last year I asked to to bring carrots instead.

I should have kept my mouth shut. No one liked the carrots. The food never gets eaten. I usually send everyone home with leftovers so I add some sweet potatoes. I couldn’t say anything without hurting her feelings so I just shut my mouth and make sure there are lots of veggies. This has been going on for years. LM

corita · ‎08-20-2012

@petepetey

The sentence in your post that I latched on to was "The last few years she started bringing a pumpkin chiffon pie, which none of us care for. We like traditional baked pumpkin pie."

I wondered...what happened the last few years...did people eat the pie? Was most of it left uneaten? If no one did eat it, she would have noticed or just does not care!!

This year - provide your own pies and see if she realizes that her pie is not eaten...good luck!!!

NicksmomESQ · ‎08-19-2014

Unless you’re close I wouldn’t say anything.It’s not worth the bad feelings. Just go ahead & bake or buy the pies that you want to serve. If no one eats her pie she’ll get the hint.At that point if she comments to you you can always say that you have no control over what your guests choose to eat.