@dooBdoo, I will only say that whether I believe someone is honorable or has integrity is a very small part of my life, in that I very rarely if ever think about it per se. What's more important to me is what I see occurring, and how I feel about what I see.
To me, a major constituent of those two things is how people treat and respond to others in general (anyone can have a hot-button issue, that's just human), rather than simply being strict rule-followers. And it honestly doesn't matter to me if someone obeys the rules because they are a person who ethically obeys all rules, or because they fear consequences if they don't - all I care about is whether they do obey them. And yes, I "respect" or agree with some rules (in all facets of life) more than others.
Being a cynic and a skeptic, I rarely ascribe wholly positive motivations to those I don't know, i.e. assume the best and most positive about someone. Neither do I routinely assume the worst; I ultimately judge someone by their routine, repeated, long-term behavior that I have observed. Any judgment I make, conscious or unconscious, is mine alone and I have no feeling that others ought to agree. And I treat people, basically, as they treat me, without considering their honor or integrity overall. How they interact with me and others is my bottom line.
I'm not saying you are doing this, but "moral judging" is rife on these forums - perhaps slightly less so after a change in forum guidelines. And because it's so prevalent, it's a total turn-off to me.
Some people are straight and narrow about every aspect of their life and judge others by that. I'm a person who is neither. Not saying you are doing that, either.
This post was in part a response to yours (in general) but it's also just a "where I'm coming from" vs where others may be coming from, and is not meant to be personal in any way.
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