Re: I Need Some Advice

CLHS68 · ‎03-23-2010

Just thank her. She just wanted to do something nice for you letting you know she appreciated what you did for her. When I got out of the hospital 2 of my neighbors helped me out & I did the same got them a card & enclosed a gift card,

suzyQ3 · ‎03-09-2010

@SXMGirl, I may be the only one who didn't home in on your mention of being a little offended. I didn't take it literally. I understood what you meant. Sounds as if it is all resolved for the best.

BTW, I always think that a person who posts a personal story here asking for advice is very brave.

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GAQShopr53 · ‎07-27-2015

Oh wow....that is an amazing jester on her part. It shows how much she clearly appreciates you as a friend. I use to not want to take gifts but have learned over the years that it can be insulting, in some cases, to refuse.

I would enjoy the gift...sometimes we think a person cannot afford something but in reality they can. The gift could have been something she was gifted with and wanted to share with you instead...Regardless just Enjoy!

Still Raining · ‎03-30-2014

Now I think of it I have only been given such rides and given them to close fiends. I would have been offended. We worked off our debts other ways. Dog sitting, picnics, gas for trips and such.

VaBelle35 · ‎03-10-2010

If it's a re-gifted card, you might want to check if it still has value as some cards lose value over time.

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GCR18 · ‎07-03-2013

@grandma r wrote:
@SXMGirl as others have advised, accept the gift card and thank your friend for her gift. You said she has no one else, so treat her to lunch or dinner or stop by with a Spring plant or bouquet (nothing too showy) just to brighten her day.I

The gift card is her way of showing her appreciation for your kindness. I am pretty sure she is happy to have a friend like you.

My thought exactly. Accept the gift. You can do something nice for her another time.

My coworker has come over at 4:30am more times than I can count, to take me to the airport. She recently went away and asked me to check in on her cat for a week. She left me a $25 gift card, bought me a drink at Starbucks and still wants to take me out for dinne dinner. There's no fighting it. Go with the flow and when an opportunity to do something arises, go for it.

BeingKindIsEasy · ‎05-24-2015

I have been in the exact position as your friend and did the exact same thing. I hope that my friend didn't feel insulted. For those that are truly alone - they want to make certain that those that are help know they are appreciated.

countrylady · ‎03-17-2010

A friend is driving me to cataract surgery & checkup the next day. The deal is that I will do the same for her later this year.

I had planned to give her $50, but now I wonder what to do.

Lucky Charm · ‎03-09-2010

@countrylady wrote:
A friend is driving me to cataract surgery & checkup the next day. The deal is that I will do the same for her later this year.
I had planned to give her $50, but now I wonder what to do.

@countrylady If you give her $50 for taking you, she is going to probably feel obligated to give you $50 when you take her.

Since you're both doing the same exact thing for each other, I'd call it a *wash*.

Plan on a lunch or other outing after both of you have had your eyes done. Go dutch!