Community Chat

[Carriestp]

While it would be easy to say none, I think there are too many variables.  For one thing, folks have very different definitions of what constitutes cheating.  And married couples all have different histories, priorities and goals as a couple.

Also, there are some marriages where cheating occurred and that was the catalyst to either get help or walk away.  As a result, some of those marriages are stronger and have lasted longer than marriages where no cheating has occurred.

I don't necessarily see a woman (or a man) as weak or stupid if they forgive or overlook, simply because sometimes it takes a really strong person to move forward with their spouse and put the past behind them.  They may be taking a risk but sometimes it pays off.  Not everyone is willing to automatically throw away an entire life together because one of them "cheated".

[YorkieonmyPillow]

I wouldn't worry about Sharon O. She's pretty tough.

[GCR18]

No second chances for cheaters.  Cheating once is enough for me.

[raven-blackbird]

I subscribe to the old..................one, you're done..................raven

[AKgirl2]

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@DiAnne wrote:

If you don't have trust you don't have anything.  I would never trust anyone again if they cheated.  Also it is always the "first' time - more like the first time they got caught!

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Without respect there is no love.

[deedledeedeedle]

My .02 cents:

When serial cheating is going on and the spouse decides to stay I sometimes think the relationship is more of a business arrangement than a marriage. Rockers usually are notorious cheaters, yes, even at Ozzy's age. Sharon was a groupie who snagged him from his 1st wife. That darn Karma.

dee

[missy1]

none

[missy1]

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@Noel7 wrote:

Some people have an open marriage, and some spouses tolerate philandering.

That's not for me but what other people do is their business, not mine.

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Then why bother getting married. Live together and have an non monogamous relationship.

[Sister Golden Hair]

No second chance for me. Forgive and forget him!!

[BeckiWV]

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