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[happycat]

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@QVCalm wrote:
"This Time of THIS Year"......my bio family has turned against me with hate-filled-filthy words in private emails, and in social media messaging options. I became a Great Grandmother a few months ago. I have one grandchild and he and his wife, my daughter (the new Grandmother) and her live-in boyfriend are almost killing me. I was able to get photos of this precious baby boy for a few weeks. Now, in this wonderful time, is a darkness and can't explain. I live in the Southwest and all of them are on the East Coast. My other child, a son, is also there and seemingly he has 'joined' them. I am so broken, I have to force myself to breath. There is not one chance they will talk this-out; I tried. I've been told I am "dead to the family" and I am an "extremely evil person."PLEASE pray for me, tell me to keep going-on.Thank You.....

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OH, my. This is so terrible, I am so sorry. I am going to pray that your childrens and these other people have a change of heart. I don't know how folks can be so cruel, but it seems to come easy to some. And there seems to be a mob mentality also sometimes where they jump on the WRONG person.

I have no idea what they are so upset about, but please just take it one day at a time and look for beauty wherever you can find it. Do something nice for yourself. A massage, a treat of some sort, or if it is warm in the southwest where you are, go outside for a bit and just sit and listen to the birds, crazy but that always help me.

Do keep going, I am praying things get better for you.

You know what makes me feel better sometimes? Doing something good for someone else. It doesn't have to be big, just look for someone who needs a little help. Or maybe if there is a homeless shelter or food pantry close, take some food.

Anyhow, I am so sorry you are going thru this, I really hope these family members come to their senses.

[Jamma]

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@QVCkitty1 wrote:

I miss those who have left way too soon, but I'm so grateful that they were in my life. 

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Me too.  I lost my Dad years ago on 12/19.  On 12/22/15

I lost my husband. 

[wagirl]

No not really----but am glad when all this over every year--get tired of the hype and the BUY__BUY__BUY-- of the season. If I do get down , its because of our constant grey wet weather--I'm in WA state. Grey is our national bird, tree, flower, etc. 

[Nonametoday]

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@Jamma wrote:

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@QVCkitty1 wrote:

I miss those who have left way too soon, but I'm so grateful that they were in my life. 

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Me too.  I lost my Dad years ago on 12/19.  On 12/22/15

I lost my husband. 

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@Jamma  @indoor kitty:  I may need your comfort and support in the very near future, so don't go away.

[Monketoes]

I Do....but try to fight it...usually doesnt work too good tho.

monke~

[stevieb]

@texassunflower  I understand completely. I have very little family left and there are so many divisions that we no longer gather on holidays. Most of my friends have scattered far and wide, though I still manage to see a few of them. I do still have my mom, but she is very elderly and severely limited, so there's really very little capacity there for festivity. I clean and decorate my place, take my mother out for Christmas Eve dinner, fix a nice meal for us on Christmas Day and then it's over. A mere shadow of what it was in days gone by, but it is, as they say, what it is... Good luck to you in finding a more peaceful Christmas in the days ahead.

[Jamma]

@Nonametoday 

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@Nonametoday wrote:

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@Jamma wrote:

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@QVCkitty1 wrote:

I miss those who have left way too soon, but I'm so grateful that they were in my life. 

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Me too.  I lost my Dad years ago on 12/19.  On 12/22/15

I lost my husband. 

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@Jamma  @indoor kitty:  I may need your comfort and support in the very near future, so don't go away.

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Just call out my name....I'll be here.

[QVCalm]

Happycat01, Thank You! I woke-up this morning and felt shame, and my thoughts were the same, that my sharing was perhaps inappropriate to post on this forum. I will continue to ask for prayers, and forgiveness if I was 'over-the-top with my message.

[CherryHugs]

Yes I do get sad. Since losing my Mom I seem to cry at alot of the Christmas Songs and they have more meaning now.

I have even teared up looking at the decorations around the town too.  Since she has been gone I am more sentimental and sad this time of the year.  Thinking of the real reason for the season does help me thru it but even getting together with family and friends I still have a sadness inside. I am really good at hiding how I feel. 

[gabstoomuch]

Worst time of year for me. January can't get here fast enough.

I had terrible Christmas's as a young girl. Both parents alcoholic, so you can imagine what chaos that was. My kids are all grown now, and they are of the new generation where they are very much into their own life. I am barely a blip on their radar.

I think what makes it worse is that the season is now 6 months long. All the stores have hopped on the "Christmas in July" train. They put minimal effort into Halloween and almost nothing for Thanksgiviing (except turkey goes on sale)

As soon as the clock strikes midnight on Oct 31 out comes all the Christmas decorations. Not only at QVC or HSN, but brick and mortar too.

So for those that Christmas is a painful time of year, it just makes the whole time frame from July to Christmas Day that much more painful. It is just too long.

When I was a kid, even in the midst of Christmas chaos, we never put up a tree until 4 or 5 days before Christmas, then it was down 3 days after Christmas, so the internal "holiday stress" was limited.

It is never going to stop either, because people buy. If every person waited until the season was actually here, the stores would stop shoving Christmas sales at us.

January 1st is my best day of the year. I cuddle up in jammies, I make tea, and I breathe a huge sigh of relief that I have 364 days before I have to go through it again. SUCH a relief!