Hi. I am having a terrible time with my 82 year old mother, who was recently diagnosed with Dementia.
Several years ago she was removed from my home for violence (severe) against me, and we have only recently began talking after 15 yrs. As long as I can remember, since childhood, she has always been very violent, towards family. She has never had any friends.
Last month, there was another "incident", and I had to get Adult Protective Services involved, of whom assisted me in moving her out of state, to live with her sister. Well, 3 weeks later, her sister sent her back to my doorstep. Her sister had her evaluated, and she was diagnosed with Dementia. Her sister paid several thousand dollars to have her placed in an assisted living home. My mother refused to go, and walked out.
One week ago my mother ended up on my doorstep. She was fine for the week, but today, became very violent again towards me (again). I have had to call the police regarding her behavior many many times, in the past 2 years, of which they do nothing. She refuses to leave my home, tells me to get out and that all my belongings in the home are "hers". I have tried to contact the same person from APS, but am only able to leave a message, and they do not return the call. I am at my wits end. I am so exhausted and do not know where else to turn.
She refuses to be seen by a Doctor while in my home. She refuses to accept she has any kind of mental and or dementia problems.
I am afraid for my life, as she has beat me years ago, was arrested, and removed from my home. I know her history, and afraid she will try to harm me, or damage my home and property.
Is there anything else that you could suggest I contact for help? I have tried the police and Adult Protective Service, and am still not getting any assistance in having her removed from my home, and getting the help she needs, I am assuming, would be an assisted living center. She is low income, and I am a single female with limited income as well, so I would not be able to financially assist.
I feel like a hostage in my own home. One of her favorite "games" is claiming elderly abuse, by anyone around her. (She purposely cuts herself and wipes her blood all over everything, furniture, walls and spits on me all the time etc). She has on several occassions grabbed knives and scissors and will charge at you. She continously reverts back to when she was younger and living in various states, as if it was yesterday, is very confused and very mean. She has ok days but mostly worse days,and violent/hostile.
Please do not beat me up, I just need alternative agencies that might be able to help me regarding this matter. I can't take this anymore Thank you...