Re: Question for Mod's?

Shanus · ‎05-17-2010

@Marp wrote:
"Unkind" is in the eye of the beholder. There are an increasing number of posters that find the stating of contrary opinions or positions as "unkind" (or worse) attacks against them.

I am sometimes reminded of kids that were raised believing the sun rises and sets on them; then when they go out into the real world and find out not everyone adores them they are crushed.

Unfortunately, however, there are some posts that are intentionally unkind, sometimes even cruel. Those posts are usually targeting an individual poster or group of posters and there is no doubt about the intent.

@Marp. It's usually the same poster when certain subjects or lines of clothing are discussed. There's no doubt that the intent is to bully and be unkind.

Marp · ‎03-09-2010

@Shanus wrote:
@Marp wrote:
"Unkind" is in the eye of the beholder. There are an increasing number of posters that find the stating of contrary opinions or positions as "unkind" (or worse) attacks against them.

I am sometimes reminded of kids that were raised believing the sun rises and sets on them; then when they go out into the real world and find out not everyone adores them they are crushed.

Unfortunately, however, there are some posts that are intentionally unkind, sometimes even cruel. Those posts are usually targeting an individual poster or group of posters and there is no doubt about the intent.

@Marp. It's usually the same poster when certain subjects or lines of clothing are discussed. There's no doubt that the intent is to bully and be unkind.

@Shanus, I'll have to defer to your perception on that statement. I've seen intent by various posters across all boards just as I have seen posters across all the boards claim they are under attack/being jumped on when in reality there is just disagreement with their position.

What is good for the goose today will also be good for the gander tomorrow.

Beth-QVC · ‎06-14-2015

Moved:

This post has been removed by QVC because it is inappropriate to other posters

lucymo · ‎12-13-2010

I read some of the posts on the boards that are just so unkind. What ever happened to respect for the other person's opinion?

NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

@proudlyfromNJ wrote:
@suzyQ3 wrote:
Am I the only one who sniffs some particular hypocrisy posted here?

Anyhoo, why don't we let QVC and their mods decide just what to remove and who to ban and not worry about any of this?

The vast majority of posters come here for fun and relaxation, not for being scolded or told what to do by others who themselves are less than perfect.

In other words, lighten up, for goodness' sake.
@suzyQ3. I agree. It's only a message board on a tv shopping site. I almost liked the old board better. Mods were behind the scenes and poofed away with no one able to question them and expect answers.

I definitely liked the old board better. For sure there were problems, but IMO the good far outweighed the bad.

NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

@Lipstickdiva wrote:
@Shanus wrote:
@CalminHeart wrote:
I'm sorry but that is a question my 5 yr old would have asked. It never occurred to me to be concerned about another poster's ability to post or not post.

No. Some posters are repeat offenders...almost 2 or 3 times a week. If they are constantly reported by other posters, I think they should lose their posting privileges for a few days until they learn to play nicely.

I think posters who continually report other posts are the ones who should lose their posting privileges. Aren't we all adults here?

Someone would have to really post something awful for me to report it.

I agree. I have been here for a long, long time, and have only reported posts twice - once when I was being repeatedly attacked by a poster over a period of many days. It wasn't simple disagreement, but rather full-on belittling, mocking, and mean girl stuff, complete with trying to recruit other posters over to her side. It was relentless, and it continually derailed the thread, which was a very interesting topic that went on for a long time and had some very insightful posts. She still posts on these forums, but I avoid her.

The other time was when someone insisted on name-calling and being nasty to another poster who seemed to be an older woman who wasn't very computer-literate or familiar with forums. She was getting slammed and was clearly in over her head. The nasty person was so unkind that I couldn't stand by and do nothing.

Both of these happened 3-4 years ago. I haven't reported a post since. Sure, I've seen some immature and rude behavior. But these forums are moderated, and I think we have to choose our battles rather than constantly running to tell on each other.

I completely agree that someone would have to post something really awful for me to report it. Presumably we're all adults here, and for me that means understanding that it takes all kinds to make a world. And it means overlooking rather than getting knickers in a twist over messages on a shopping channel forum. I'm in favor of letting the mods do their jobs.

NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

@happygolfcartrider wrote:
A while back I started a thread about good deeds people do, it got so mean and nasty that I asked the mods to shut it down.

I think I remember that.

It's unfortunate that light, good-hearted topics can take such a downward turn. Without giving it much thought, I can think of a few right now that went that way. Perfectly innocent topics that for some reason made certain grouchy and negative posters feel they just had to contribute and ruin the positive feeling.

NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

@Marp wrote:
@Shanus wrote:
@Marp wrote:
"Unkind" is in the eye of the beholder. There are an increasing number of posters that find the stating of contrary opinions or positions as "unkind" (or worse) attacks against them.

I am sometimes reminded of kids that were raised believing the sun rises and sets on them; then when they go out into the real world and find out not everyone adores them they are crushed.

Unfortunately, however, there are some posts that are intentionally unkind, sometimes even cruel. Those posts are usually targeting an individual poster or group of posters and there is no doubt about the intent.

@Marp. It's usually the same poster when certain subjects or lines of clothing are discussed. There's no doubt that the intent is to bully and be unkind.
@Shanus, I'll have to defer to your perception on that statement. I've seen intent by various posters across all boards just as I have seen posters across all the boards claim they are under attack/being jumped on when in reality there is just disagreement with their position.

I've seen that a lot too. Disagreeing is not attacking. This happens a lot when a thread is starting asking for advice, but the OP really just wants validation of what she's already decided to do.

But it happens on all kinds of threads, and apparently some people don't understand that these are forums, which by nature allow for different opinions.

febe1 · ‎01-22-2012

The reason, I believe, mods may be seen to others as inconsistent could be mods evaluate ONE post, the post they are looking at. Mods don't see or understand what has become before and exists in the relationship of the two parties involved.

There are many like and dislike relationships on the forums that have gone on for years. The interpretation of a singular post may appear innocent to others, while those in that grip of dislike sees and recognizes the unkindness of it.

There is a lot of passive/aggressive posts on the forum. You can't expect mods to recognize this.

Jackhound Mom · ‎03-09-2010

Here's a blast form our past that I forgot about.

To answer an old question, I would gladly take credit for anything I have written or said and would accept whatever the mod's thought fair.

I have never visited here to offend, insult or pick a fight. I answer what I can answer,offer support when I can, and ask questions that I would like answers to.

Still I get the occasional insulting remark and usually they are removed before I know who to avoid. This is the only fault with these message boards IMO.

Most must have a much better memory than I do as I didn't remember this "exchange."

Cathy

@Moonchilde wrote:
@Jackhound Mom wrote:
Maybe the Mods could leave the names of the nasty posters and just remove the post and then we would know who to avoid.

The moderators are adults. I assume most posters should be. I don't think the forums need Mean Girl dunce caps. Just remember, someone could have one placed on you at some point. Would you still think it's a good idea then?