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beach-mom · ‎03-09-2010

I'm so sorry you're going through this! I would definitely be concerned. My DS just turned 21, and I wouldn't let HIM do it! I would - IF someone else was going with him. I don't think it's a good idea for anyone of any age to make a trip like that alone! DD's best friend got a job on the other side of the country after college. She and her mom drove out, and her mom flew back. Like others have said - there are just too many things that could happen to anyone who is traveling alone. Does he have a friend who would make the trip with him? If he does end up doing it, I would make sure he "checks in" with you every day. I hope you get him to change his mind. ***crossing fingers***

Plaid Pants2 · ‎03-14-2015

At 18, he is legally an adult, and can make his own decisions for himself. He can even enlist in the armed forces if he wants.

Does a parent worry?

Of course! It comes with the territory.

At age 22, I drove 11 hours by myself to see friends.

He's a big boy. He needs to learn to live life on his own, and become independant.

Isn't that what all parents want for their children? To fly the nest, start their own lives, and become independant, responsible adults?

The umbilical cord has to be cut sometime.

I agree with having him call someone daily to let them know where he is, but other than that, it's his life.

gabstoomuch · ‎03-16-2010

Hi Ford, I went searching for you. I have been worried about you. You OK with your recent med problem?

As to you grandson, you can talk to him but I doubt it will be heard. 18 is the age they go deaf, and know everything.

Also, some of the worries we have at our age are not things that even cross the mind of an 18 year old. Foresight is not developed until mid-20's, so they have no fear factor.

The best your daughter can do is ask for frequent contact, a call or text. I think he will figure it all out. OR he may just turn around when he gets too far from his comfort zone.

LilacTree · ‎03-25-2012

@beach-mom wrote:
I'm so sorry you're going through this! I would definitely be concerned. My DS just turned 21, and I wouldn't let HIM do it! I would - IF someone else was going with him. I don't think it's a good idea for anyone of any age to make a trip like that alone! DD's best friend got a job on the other side of the country after college. She and her mom drove out, and her mom flew back. Like others have said - there are just too many things that could happen to anyone who is traveling alone. Does he have a friend who would make the trip with him? If he does end up doing it, I would make sure he "checks in" with you every day. I hope you get him to change his mind. ***crossing fingers***

My daughter just told me he's not sure he's going to make the trip to CA after all. I think perhaps a lot of people gave him a thumbs down on this idea. So all of you (and me) crossing our fingers and praying this would not happen may have done some good!

He just told her this, and also brought a truckload of wood, enough to keep our fireplace going for the whole winter!! He is a good kid and I am feeling so relieved. We shall see what happens and I will post again when I'm sure one way or the other.

Thank you all for your concern and wise advice. This BB can be such a godsend when one has an issue and doesn't know what to do. Now I will just keep my fingers crossed that he will not take this trip after all.

Formerly Ford1224
We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. Elie Wiesel 1986

LilacTree · ‎03-25-2012

@gabstoomuch wrote:
Hi Ford, I went searching for you. I have been worried about you. You OK with your recent med problem?

As to you grandson, you can talk to him but I doubt it will be heard. 18 is the age they go deaf, and know everything.

Also, some of the worries we have at our age are not things that even cross the mind of an 18 year old. Foresight is not developed until mid-20's, so they have no fear factor.

The best your daughter can do is ask for frequent contact, a call or text. I think he will figure it all out. OR he may just turn around when he gets too far from his comfort zone.

Gabs too much, please read my last post. I am somewhat relieved and hopeful right now.

As for the meds I did post on that thread that the RA doc gave me an interim scrip for 1 mg prednisone, which should tide me over until the February appt., so I am feeling more hopeful about the start of 2016!!

You are so right about teenagers and early 20s. They have no fear at all. My granddaughter, age 20, his sister, is planning to move to NYC with a couple of friends. They are all trying to get into theater up there. They are looking for an apartment in Manhattan that they can share, and hoping to get auditions off-Broadway.

Frankly, I think both of my grandchildren are just trying to get away from their father.

Formerly Ford1224
We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. Elie Wiesel 1986

gabstoomuch · ‎03-16-2010

I am happy he is rethinking. I did some real dumb stuff at age 18 too, but driving cross country alone was not one of them

Also happy you got hold over script. I hope the new rheumie works out. If anything maybe your own Dr just wants to be able to log that he sent you to a specialist, and then you go back to him and carry on. Dr's are being super cautious, ridiculously so sometimes. They have to follow such strict guidelines now, reporting everything they do. They are not free to treat as they see fit anymore. Too many eyes are on them. It has made our medical system a mess in my opinion.

LilacTree · ‎03-25-2012

@gabstoomuch wrote:
I am happy he is rethinking. I did some real dumb stuff at age 18 too, but driving cross country alone was not one of them

Also happy you got hold over script. I hope the new rheumie works out. If anything maybe your own Dr just wants to be able to log that he sent you to a specialist, and then you go back to him and carry on. Dr's are being super cautious, ridiculously so sometimes. They have to follow such strict guidelines now, reporting everything they do. They are not free to treat as they see fit anymore. Too many eyes are on them. It has made our medical system a mess in my opinion.

Both of my docs are women. Just info because most folks say "he" and out of my four main docs, three are women.

I have an appt. with my GP on January 11. Hopefully, she received the report from the RA doc regarding my initial visit with her, and I can bring the GP up to date on what's been happening since then.

I agree that docs do seem to be more regimented than ever before. I've surely been around long enough to notice that.

Formerly Ford1224
We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. Elie Wiesel 1986

missy1 · ‎03-10-2010

YES

hyacinth003 · ‎03-12-2010

I would be very worried!

However, I am trying to live more by the Serenity Prayer.

Especially the part "accept the things you cannot change."

After having your say and praying, that is what I am trying to do better!

Hyacinth

johngrisham · ‎09-09-2016

I would rather allow my son to go and explore the country, but would caution him of not indulging in bad stuffs and be secure while realizing any grim situation. Actually, my friend too did this around an year back, making his son to explore the nook and corners of the country. He firstly bought an RV with all the facilities, which was shipped by some reputed transporting rvs contractor in a safe manner to his home. Then he and the mother blessed their son of making most out of this trip and return to home with exciting experiences. His son, after completing the trip, returned back to home last month only and shared his thrilling experiences and was seemed to be much mature than his peers around him.

Here is that RV: