Community Chat

[ciao_bella]

By the end of this year, I will be retiring from teaching after 27+ years.  I have not joined FB until just recently, thinking it may be a great way to keep in touch with friends and colleagues when I retire. 

When I joined, a friend, who I have know for decades, asked to friend her, which I did.  I haven't seen her in many years though we used to work together before I started teaching.  We've always had a nice friendship.  

Since accepting her as a friend, everyday  I receive several political posts from her on my FB homepage and timeline.  When I joined FB, my intention was to share pictures, events, memories, etc.  to keep in touch with friends. All of my current friends know I'm not into political posts/agendas and don't want them posted on my FB.   After seeing her posts these on my FB, I decided to message her with a very polite request to refrain from posting them on my FB.  I told her that, although I respect everyone's choice in politics, I prefer not to have them posted on my FB.  I added that all of my current friends are aware of this so that's why there are no other political posts on my FB.  I thanked her for her understanding.  She responded to my message with a Like 'thumbs up', so I thought everything was okay. 

Everyday, since that response from her, I have been getting the same type of political posts on my FB timeline and homepage.  I've taken the posts down each time I see them, but I'm not sure how I should handle this.  Should I just continue to take them down and say nothing, say something to her again  or something else?

[cherry]

I would simply unfriend her. You asked her nicely not to do it. She has no respect for your wishes. There is always one isn't there?

[Goldengate8361]

Everybody has at least one crazy friend of the opposite political leanings who does this on Facebook. It’s no biggie. No one assumes it reflects on you. Really. It’s Facebook. Everybody knows how it works. I always see posts on mine (from largely friends I went to college and high school with) that that totally make me cringe. I laugh! And, that’s the right thing to do. Nobody takes Facebook seriously.

[Zhills]

You don't have to unfriend her.  You can "unfollow" her and she remains your friend but her posts do not show up in your feed.  You can go to her page for any messages you want to see and/or anwser.

[willdob3]

@ciao_bella

Delete your FB account. Easy fix. The alternative is to deal with all sorts of things you don’t want to on a regular basis. 

[Deree]

I might be wrong but I think what you're seeing is your FB feed which is different from your own FB page. When you friend someone their posts on their own personal FB page may show up in your feed. So even though she acknowledged your request she is still posting on her own FB page what she wants to. The only solutions are either to unfriend her then maybe keep in touch with her via email or unfollow her as someone said.

[sidsmom]

Asking a friend not to post something?

Ouch.

She’s probably thinking, ‘yeah, right.’

Easy fix on your part...without insulting your friends.

ETA: Knowing this information, I would immediately message her

back and apologize. Let her know you are new at this & wasn’t aware. 

[The Odd One]

All you have to do is UNFOLLOW her. You don't have to unfriend her.

[FrostyBabe1]

You can't control what other people decide to post on Facebook. That's their decision. What you're most likely seeing are posts that she decides to share either publicly or with her friends. Just unfollow her and you won't have to see them. 

[chrystaltree]

Just unfriend her but don't be surprise if that ends the real life friendship too.  Everyone on FB experiences that but it doesn't bother most of us.  FB is 90% junk so we read what interests and skip by what doesn't.  You don't actually have to read every post on FB...lol  You can be selective.   There was a reason why you were so late to FB, it wasn't your thing.  You don't understand it and I think you are giving it an importance that it doesn't deserve.  Unfriend her, look at your privacy settings and stop taking it all so seriously.  I've done what I can do to weed out the junk and trash but I still a myriad of stuff I don't want.  I just don't care, FB doesn't force me to read things I don't want to read.