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[Montana]

I would start the meal as planned and I would not be upset with the latecomers.  Let them be upset. 

[KitTkat]

My mom's always late for everything. Growing up I always said to myself that she'd be late for my wedding. I've never married, but when my sister got married, yep, mom was late. The good thing was though, everything was behind anyway, so it wasn't noticed (except by me) ... I don't know why my mom's always late, I've never asked her, but maybe I should. Maybe the late arrivers should be asked why they are always late. There's no good excuse, but maybe they have a reason like... "his hairpiece kept falling off" ... "couldn't get my pantyhose on right" ... "I dropped the car keys in the toilet" ... "We don't own a clock"... So on and so forth

[temptations fan]

DesertDi  - Thanks for your “not” snide comment but I wasn’t really asking for a reason why they are late I was simply asking what you would do. Since they are, as stated, family it would probably be a safe assumption that they grew up eating the same type of food as me and since they always still eat when they arrive I am pretty sure it is not my cooking that is the issue.

[Nataliesgramma]

My brother was like this...always a half hour late......

I got tired of it and Just plain out told him that we are going to eat  at 3 Pm....and I stuck to it.....it only took 2 times of cold food for it to stop

Has only been late one time since and called ahead of time....I held dinner for the 15 min he needed to arrive ....

[CelticCrafter]

My brother and his wife were always late to everything, so I started to tell them they needed to be here an hour before.

He would blame her, she would blame him.

My father on the other hand was always early to everything and I would tell him an hour later!

[BeccaLou]

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@temptations fanwrote:

What do you do when certain family members consistently show up late to family dinners? Do you eat without them or wait? We have family members that always show up late for holiday dinners, they have no excuse for being late, they live five miles away and have no children to get ready they are just always late. Last Easter we waited half an hour and then ate without them, they finally showed up 90 minutes late and we were done eating the meal and getting ready for dessert. So when you tell your family we are eating at a certain time and everyone else is there but they are late What would you do?

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becca lou wrote: My take on that is they didn't want to show up to begin with. If so eat and put everything away if they are really late. But if you confront them it probably turn into an arguement. And continue to do so as not to get poisoned. People are just to wierd for words.Or you can tell them that the get-together starts at 3:00pm, but it's really at 4:00pm the they will be on time. I just got tired of people like and just quit enviting the. 

[Karie2022]

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@temptations fanwrote:

What do you do when certain family members consistently show up late to family dinners? Do you eat without them or wait? We have family members that always show up late for holiday dinners, they have no excuse for being late, they live five miles away and have no children to get ready they are just always late. Last Easter we waited half an hour and then ate without them, they finally showed up 90 minutes late and we were done eating the meal and getting ready for dessert. So when you tell your family we are eating at a certain time and everyone else is there but they are late What would you do?

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Oh my..that is incredibly rude...you did the right thing, eat without them..I’m curious, what do they say to you when they are that late?

[Harpa]

I would state that you are serving at such-&-such a time, and then do it!

My DD will be coming for dinner today, and I was contemplating just that. Eat without them...? since she is always-always late, though today she has an excuse, since DSIL has to do a job. But still....

DH and I like early dinner. Her clock has always been different than mine. At least I might be able to eat and then help her serve the little ones.

[jackthebear]

Dr Phil did a show on this years ago,

the latecomers get a payoff from always being late

as in all the attention in the room, everything stopping while they are accommodated, etc.

start on time and if they come they come,   

[jackthebear]

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@temptations fanwrote:

What do you do when certain family members consistently show up late to family dinners? Do you eat without them or wait? We have family members that always show up late for holiday dinners, they have no excuse for being late, they live five miles away and have no children to get ready they are just always late. Last Easter we waited half an hour and then ate without them, they finally showed up 90 minutes late and we were done eating the meal and getting ready for dessert. So when you tell your family we are eating at a certain time and everyone else is there but they are late What would you do?

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Did you invite them this year?