Re: Question About A Wedding Invitation

NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

@Lipstickdiva wrote:
@Jordan2 wrote:
How much money should a couple attending a wedding give the couple? Does the area of the country factor into the amount you give? I have heard people say the amount they pay per person has gone up in price, they would like the gift to cover the amount at least.. Someone told me the going rate nowadays is $350-$500!
I think it definitely depends on the area. I have never heard of giving someone enough to cover the cost of you being there, until I started posting on this board. That doesn't even make sense because how would anyone know what the per head cost was?

I'm in a suburb of Cleveland. Here, a $100.00 is considered generous. I personally give based on my relationship with the person but $100.00 is the least I would give. HOwever, I could see that in someplace like NYC, I would give more.

I never heard of covering the cost until I read about it here either. That's ridiculous, IMO. I've been involved in the planning of several weddings and I've attended many all over the U.S. and all over the world, but I've never heard of that other than on these forums.

The amounts definitely vary depending where you live. You're correct - In NYC, it's higher than many other areas. $350-$500 is most definitely not standard, though. For me, it depends on the closeness of the relationship, and of course if the gift is from one person, a couple, a family, etc.

scatcat · ‎03-15-2010

How much $ you give is like asking how much does a house cost where you live. Too hard to generalize. We watch House Hunters and are amazed at what $300k buys in some areas - we need to move there!

My friend got married in rural MO and said a family of 4 would bring a piece of Tupperware as a gift. It's all relative

willdob3 · ‎11-01-2010

@Jordan2 wrote:
I got a wedding invitation today in the mail. It was mailed on January 3 for a February 19 wedding. You must RSVP by January 15, it's a black tie affair.I'm thinking 9 days isn't much time to RSVP and am thinking I was an after thought invite, maybe they have gotten a number of nos.I won't be attending but I am wondering how much should a couple not attending a wedding give as a gift (a check)?TIA

@Jordan2 -

IMHO, the amount one gives to a couple should have nothing to do with whether one is going to attend the wedding. The gift is not an admission fee.

It should depend on your relationship with them and how you feel about them as well as what one can afford. Give as much of as little as you'd like. Send just a card if you want. There are no rules.

Jordan2 · ‎03-16-2010

@willdob3 wrote:
@Jordan2 wrote:
I got a wedding invitation today in the mail. It was mailed on January 3 for a February 19 wedding. You must RSVP by January 15, it's a black tie affair.I'm thinking 9 days isn't much time to RSVP and am thinking I was an after thought invite, maybe they have gotten a number of nos.I won't be attending but I am wondering how much should a couple not attending a wedding give as a gift (a check)?TIA
@Jordan2 -

IMHO, the amount one gives to a couple should have nothing to do with whether one is going to attend the wedding. The gift is not an admission fee.

It should depend on your relationship with them and how you feel about them as well as what one can afford. Give as much of as little as you'd like. Send just a card if you want. There are no rules.

@willdob3, clearly you're a better person than I am! If I'm not going to the wedding I feel I don't have to give the same gift as if I were attending. For the record I spoke to someone who advised me the going rate was $150-$200 if you don't attend. I ended up sending a check for $200.

Iwantcoffee · ‎03-11-2010

@Jordan2 wrote:
@willdob3 wrote:
@Jordan2 wrote:
I got a wedding invitation today in the mail. It was mailed on January 3 for a February 19 wedding. You must RSVP by January 15, it's a black tie affair.I'm thinking 9 days isn't much time to RSVP and am thinking I was an after thought invite, maybe they have gotten a number of nos.I won't be attending but I am wondering how much should a couple not attending a wedding give as a gift (a check)?TIA
@Jordan2 -

IMHO, the amount one gives to a couple should have nothing to do with whether one is going to attend the wedding. The gift is not an admission fee.

It should depend on your relationship with them and how you feel about them as well as what one can afford. Give as much of as little as you'd like. Send just a card if you want. There are no rules.
@willdob3, clearly you're a better person than I am! If I'm not going to the wedding I feel I don't have to give the same gift as if I were attending. For the record I spoke to someone who advised me the going rate was $150-$200 if you don't attend. I ended up sending a check for $200.

I have never heard of a going rate for a wedding gift. I select a gift from the registry in my budget. What other people give has nothing to do with me