Community Chat

[LorelaiGilmore]

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@Group 5 minus 1 wrote:

You have to learn to say "no" w/out feeling guilty.

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Agree. And to that  I will add, learn to say no without apologizing. 

[geezerette]

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@qualitygal wrote:

@bikerbabe   I've read your comments for some time now, and I think you are great!!! 

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@qualitygal 

She is!❤️  

And she has a wicked sense of humor too! 😉

[Desert Lily]

I think not saying no when a person truly doesn't want to do something can leave that person feeling resentment.

[qualitygal]

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@Group 5 minus 1 wrote:

@qualitygal How do you know she didn't like you? Maybe she had a lot on her mind? But,I still think you did the right thing. You are just too hard on yourself.

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???  I'm not sure what you're talking about, would you clarify please?  Think there's a mixup here.

[Still Raining]

"Too nice" seems to a code for some else.  What is the actual concern?  

[AngelPuppy1]

@Jordan2 

It sounds to me like you are being how we are supposed to be!!!  If others are negative, not caring, rude, etc., they are the ones who should be re-programmed!!!  You have, at least in my opinion, nothing to feel bad about.  However, if you are constantly being taken advantage of and it's making you feel bad, then you most certainly should learn to say no --- I can't do that, or no --- I don't have time, etc.  It sounds to me as if you are kind, conscientious, and trying to make a difference in children's lives and in others' lives.  The world needs more of YOU, and a lot less of THEM!!! 

[Kalli]

@Jordan2 , To me, you are a blessing, a blessing because what you do actually helps children. You step up when the staff is short handed thus ensuring classes are covered and students continue to learn. You provide needed items so students don't go without basic needs like tissues and band aids. Children benefit from seeing your example of what good adults do because sometimes their home life isn't happy or consistent or loving. 

Please don't change! Ok, if there's a time now and then that you feel you must say no, do it without guilt. But don't change your loving, giving nature. Young children are benefitting from your compassion and dedication. And I'm sure there are at least some of your fellow workers who appreciate you, too!