I Need Encouragement.....A Lot - Page 5

ECBG · ‎01-08-2011

I am so sorry that anyone has to deal with this. Sending love and prayers.

aroc3435 · ‎09-30-2010

@Lindsays Grandma Thank you for the information. Really wasn't sure. I know in the "old old" days you were in the hospital after the surgery and they put sand bags on either side of your head so you wouldn't move it and you were an in patient for a couple of weeks. I did know the sand bag thing and lengthy stay were no longer true but wasn't sure if now it could be done outside a hospital setting.

Sabear · ‎04-24-2010

My 84 year old father had a similar experience in which he was basically heathy one day, passed out from an unknown heart problem and was critically illy for about a month. He returned home weak, on oxygen, confused and basically needed round the clock care. It’s been almost a year and he’s finally getting back to his old self. It was terrifying and exhausting,..with all the doctor trips and medicine changes. You may be overwhelmed, partly because you are sick yourself, so kind to yourself, Please don’t get too discouraged. I think your feelings are normal. You will develop a routine and as time passes things will get better. i am a Christian and l leaned heavily on my faith. I wish you the best and may Gods loving arms surround you and comfort you and your husband during this difficult time.

patofl · ‎11-18-2018

It seems you are not capable of caring for him so he needs to go to a rehab type setting until he can care for himself.

When you married a man 21 years your senior did it not occur to you that someday you would most likely have to care for him?

Lindsays Grandma · ‎03-10-2010

@aroc3435 wrote:
@Lindsays Grandma Thank you for the information. Really wasn't sure. I know in the "old old" days you were in the hospital after the surgery and they put sand bags on either side of your head so you wouldn't move it and you were an in patient for a couple of weeks. I did know the sand bag thing and lengthy stay were no longer true but wasn't sure if now it could be done outside a hospital setting.

I am absolutely shocked about the sand bags, so glad I never had to have it done back in the day, frightening. The surgery was quick and simple and during one I woke up, talked to the doctor for a minute and was put out again, never felt a thing. Back home a few hours later and the worst part was putting drops in the eyes every so many hours.

The moving finger writes; And having writ, Moves on: nor all your Piety nor Wit Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line Nor all your Tears Wash out a Word of it. Omar Khayam

conlt · ‎03-16-2010

If he is on Medicare he qualifies for a social worker under the home health benefit. The social worker can help connect you to available resources. Is he a veteran? If so, he may qualify for some money for private duty care. Take care, I care for my 92 year old mother and she has fallen 5 times this year. She is in rehab now, we are not sure how well she is going to do.

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

@patofl wrote:
It seems you are not capable of caring for him so he needs to go to a rehab type setting until he can care for himself.
When you married a man 21 years your senior did it not occur to you that someday you would most likely have to care for him?

My father was a lot older than my mother. No, you often don't marry someone because you are thinking ahead. She was thinking of the 50 great years they did have together.

You can have to care for someone at any age and nobody knows who will die when, and what the circumstances will be. It's about how two people feel about one another. Marriages are for many reasons. And many things happen.

I think it is cruel to ask this question now. Also, how many people care for parents these days as well?

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

@conlt wrote:
If he is on Medicare he qualifies for a social worker under the home health benefit. The social worker can help connect you to available resources. Is he a veteran? If so, he may qualify for some money for private duty care. Take care, I care for my 92 year old mother and she has fallen 5 times this year. She is in rehab now, we are not sure how well she is going to do.

@conlt She said he has money--so does that mean he can't get anything through the Veterans program?