Community Chat

[sarahpanda]

Yes, a new boyfriend for you will do the trick....or at least help it right along.

[chrystaltree]

First, you should stop hanging out with the man. You shouldn't be hanging out with him, that's keeping you from moving on. You want a "friendly" relationship with him because you have children and are forever bound by that but you can't be friends with him. Now that there's a woman in his life, it's only natural that you would feel jealous and a bit possessive. So, remember why he's now your ex....it wasn't because everything was wonderful between the two of you. Remember why you sent your separate ways. And get back into the dating pool yourself. I imagine that after 27 years, it's hard thing to do but if you don't want to be alone forever, you have to do it.

[chickenbutt]

I would respectfully disagree with some that she needs to be out there dating. IMO, she's not ready for dating. She needs to get right with herself first.

Do know that everything I say here is to help, and not to hurt.

[Shorty2U]

Im sorry for what you are going through. I don't have any true advice because everyone is different but cheating was enough for me.

My 1st husband found someone online, had an affair, and left us @ Christmas (no less) in 1998 after 19 years of marriage. Oh she was married too.

That was enough for me. I knew I deserved better is how I got through it. I was a loving, caring, hard working, good mother, and wife. I didn't deserve what I went through at the time at all.

So I picked myself up and I moved on quickly @ the time and NEVER looked back!

YOU deserve better too. A better life whether that includes being alone or meeting someone else.

I can tell you this, things get better, much better with time!. I am remarried to a wonderful, kind, and loving man (whose 1st wife left him for someone she met online too).

So I am glad my 1st husband did what he did. Because of it, now I am with my 2nd husband, my real true love who treats me with love, respect, and kindness. My children and grand grandchildren adore my husband too!

Brighter days are ahead, trust me! I wish you the very best!

[foundinlv]

OP....He sounds like a dirt bag. After everything he did to you, why would you want to be friends with him.....friendly yes because of the kids. He is now the other woman's problem. If your friendship with him was not so involved you would not necessarily know of his status with his girlfriend hanging out in your former home. Dump him like yesterday's garbage.

[faeriemoon]

On 2/18/2015 Preds said:

Stop ""dating"" him. Work on dating someone else to keep you company. He has moved on (again) and so should you.

I agree.

[Marienkaefer2]

On 2/18/2015 chickenbutt said:

I would respectfully disagree with some that she needs to be out there dating. IMO, she's not ready for dating. She needs to get right with herself first.

Do know that everything I say here is to help, and not to hurt.

ITA! I was just going to post this. There's a lot of emotions going on here. I don't think she's over the divorce yet.

[CouponQueen]

On 2/18/2015 hulagirl said:

While "dating" him, have you also been sleeping with him, too?? This adds a whole new emotional attachment that you haven't disclosed in this post and is another good reason you can't get on with things in your own life.

I don't think she said the relationship continued in that aspect or at least I didn't take it that way.

[lulu2]

What a prince. He used your hotel account so you could earn points while he shacked up with his girlfriend?

Be thankful he's your EX.

[LucyGoose]

Right after my divorce I immediately went on the rebound and had a short fling with a guy that I hardly knew, because I met him online. I went through some crazy emotions! So yeah, I can see that you must be right with yourself before you try to start dating.