How do you get over an ex-husband??

qvc chick · ‎03-10-2010

Need advise. I was married for 27 years, have two grown children. Five years ago, we got a divorce (mutual). He kept the house, and I bought a townhome about 5 blocks away, to stay in the same school district. We remained (somewhat) friends, and would still go for dinner, shopping, etc. He doesn't have any close friends, and usually stayed home alot.

Well now he has a girlfriend, that seems to be at my old house alot. This bothers me, and I'm not sure why. And then on valentines day, apparently he bought her balloons and a gift, which I never received in all the years we were married.

But he still calls me during the week (almost every day) and we still might go shopping or out to dinner. On weekends I never hear from him, because she is with him.

Not sure why I am having a really hard time with this. I knew he had a girlfriend. But as soon as I saw that she was at my old house...cooking in my old kitchen....I can't get passed this. I am very sad. I don't want him back. He cheated on my three times in our marriage, and is hot-headed. So not sure why I am feeling like this.

I guess its the old saying....you don't want him...but when someone else wants him, he starts to look good again.

Any suggestions?

JustJazzmom · ‎03-09-2010

Keep saying to yourself-- he cheated on me three times during our marriage-- that will get you through this.

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terrier3 · ‎03-10-2010

Get your own boyfriend and stop communicating with ex (except about the kids).

rhinovodka · ‎07-29-2013

Hi, I am sorry you are having a hard time. Try to stay busy, find a hobby, take a trip, meet new friends and most of all it is not you, it is him and keep telling yourself, you love your life as it is, without him.

Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

You need to keep reminding yourself why he's your EX-husband and you aren't still married to him.

I also think you need to stop all communication with him unless it involves the children. If I was his current girlfriend and found out he still had all this unnecessary contact with his ex-wife, I wouldn't be his girlfriend any longer.

Preds · ‎12-17-2012

Stop ""dating"" him. Work on dating someone else to keep you company. He has moved on (again) and so should you.

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ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

How do you get over an ex-husband?: . . Just step right over him, and keep on walking..............

'More or less', 'Right or wrong', 'In general', and 'Just thinking out loud ' (as usual).

croemer · ‎03-10-2010

On 2/18/2015 LipstickDiva said:
You need to keep reminding yourself why he's your EX-husband and you aren't still married to him.

I also think you need to stop all communication with him unless it involves the children. If I was his current girlfriend and found out he still had all this unnecessary contact with his ex-wife, I wouldn't be his girlfriend any longer.

${#emotions_dlg.thumbup1}$ This...he is an ex for a reason.

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adelle38 · ‎03-09-2010

On 2/18/2015 Preds said:
Stop "dating" him. Work on dating someone else to keep you company. He has moved on (again) and so should you.

I agree. Stay cordial so you can communicate about the children but leave him out of your social life. Remember, if he's not cheating on this girlfriend now, he will.

It's always a victory for me when I remember why I entered a room.