@spindlegirl Well, since you don't know me and I don't know you .....we will never know ..... will we?
That was an interesting comment you made....hummm???
I will admit there is sometimes conflict with me. A for instance would be.... just the other day a good friend notified me he was in the hospital and asked me not to tell another of our friends. I agreed even though I didn't know what difference it made. He was very specific.
Then I had lunch with the friend (let's call her A). She mentioned several times that she'd not heard from the hospital friend and had I). I said, "Yes, I'd heard from him". period.
Then later she said, "He must not be home". I never said a word. The tone she used made me realize she was asking a question....yet I didn't say anything.
So, now the conflict. I gave my word not to say he was in the hospital. He put me in a difficult position. However, I totally believe one's word is important. I was married to a man who's word was everything.
So, it's been on my mind for a few days now. He's still in the hospital, getting out tomorrow. I don't know why he didn't want her to know, none of my business. I was honoring my word.
Yet I feel like I lied to her by not answering her question. She will eventually find out; and for a few minutes she'll be angry with me; but she'll get over it.
When she asks why I didn't tell her I'll tell her he asked me not to tell anyone (which he did). I will remind her that she's told me many things and asked me not to tell anyone (which I haven't).
While many people might get angry initially, they do learn that I am true to my word. If they don't like it, they need not tell me their secrets.
That's just the way I am @spindlegirl. Perhaps that's why I'm told things that otherwise people would never tell someone else. They know if they ask me to keep quiet, it stays with me.
I have 3 teenage grandchildren. We do things together a lot (especially the 2 girls). The rule is you can tell or ask Grandma anything you want and I'll be totally honest with you. That is unless it is something that I think might be dangerous for them now or in the future.
That's always been the rules. THEY know grandma is honest and I think they respect that about me.
So, there you have it. I will state that I am an honest person who tries to do the right thing. @spindlegirl. I like to believe in the goodness of others.
I also think that most people (not true for a very few) even when they're doing the wrong thing, they realize they're doing the wrong thing and (for the most part) are in some kind of conflict about it.
One becomes a happier person if they can find forgiveness in their heart and not constantly judge people. It's best to believe in the goodness of others.
I hope you believe in that statement rather than the glass is 1/2 empty.
Phew! Now my brain hurts and I'm going to turn on the boob tube.
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