Dutch Treat Reception ??? - Page 24

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

There is nothing wrong with having a gift registry but it should not be presented to a guest unless the guest asks for gift suggestions.

It's as simple as that.

No one under any circumstances should ask anyone for a gift. To ask is so obviously wrong that any adult should have learned that when they were still a child.

embgm · ‎07-02-2014

My son was married three weeks ago to a wonderful young lady who he has lived with for the past four years. In lieu of a shower I gave a small welcome to the family bridal luncheon for her with close family members only. These close family members were purchasing gifts for her anyway that would be considered shower gifts. The wedding g budget was discussed and her parents, the bride and groom and us figured out what the budget would be. My son and daughter in law planned their wedding accordingly. Their wedding was beautiful and reception, food and music all wonderful. They had 65 guests made up of close family and friends. It was a wonderful day and no one went into debt! The reception was held in a banquet room of a restaurant and was the perfect size for the number of guests invited. It was a dinner and an open bar with lots of dancing. My point is that with careful planning and budgeting a wedding can be classy and special.

KarenQVC · ‎05-13-2010

@embgm This sounds like a civilized wedding. Great. I think there is no way the Dutch-treat wedding can ever be salvaged, really. Everyone will be looking at the bride knowing what her original intentions were. There will be friction between the families. Yada, yada. Really, if I were the mother of the groom, I would advise him to elope. You can't unring that tacky bell. A lesson learned by a couple young people who should have known better.

bri20 · ‎03-10-2016

@Carmie, thanks for the update.

What a mess indeed.

Marianne1 · ‎04-16-2013

Why do others call opinions and customs of others "tacky"?

While we are all allowed opinions, I just think there has to be a better way to state them without insulting other people's choices and customs.

Think of all the hurt feelings your words may cause- there are people here that may just have had the kind of wedding or custom that you are calling "tacky".

Snoopp · ‎02-02-2015

I have never heard of a dutch treat reception, it must be something new.

Did they include a price list for the menu?

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

@Marianne1 wrote:
Why do others call opinions and customs of others "tacky"?

While we are all allowed opinions, I just think there has to be a better way to state them without insulting other people's choices and customs.

Think of all the hurt feelings your words may cause- there are people here that may just have had the kind of wedding or custom that you are calling "tacky".

People here love to call others tacky - thinking it somehow elevates them when , in fact, nothing could be more tacky than calling someone tacky, or mocking some other person's lifestyle. Bec

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

@Marianne1 wrote:
Why do others call opinions and customs of others "tacky"?

While we are all allowed opinions, I just think there has to be a better way to state them without insulting other people's choices and customs.

Think of all the hurt feelings your words may cause- there are people here that may just have had the kind of wedding or custom that you are calling "tacky".

People here love to call others tacky - thinking it somehow elevates them when , in fact, nothing could be more tacky than calling someone tacky, or mocking some other person's lifestyle. Because my DH and I stay in a trailer in the summer I frequently get the "trailer trash" BS here, and they have no knowledge whatever how many posters may live in a trailer. Clearly there are many posters here who think that because they have money they are classy - they haven't a clue what makes a woman a lady - and that it has NOTHING to do with money.

queendiva · ‎03-12-2010

@Carmie: Thanks for sharing your update!

IMO your friend needs to take her son aside and advise him that he and/or his bride need to pick up the tab for the wedding reception, not them, especially since you indicate that it is his second wedding. I know I would not bail my son out in this case.

Only 65 guests?! They have a few calls/emails to make!

And ITA you can't un-ring the Tacky bell once it has been heard!

missy1 · ‎03-10-2010

@151949 wrote:
@Marianne1 wrote:
Why do others call opinions and customs of others "tacky"?

While we are all allowed opinions, I just think there has to be a better way to state them without insulting other people's choices and customs.

Think of all the hurt feelings your words may cause- there are people here that may just have had the kind of wedding or custom that you are calling "tacky".

People here love to call others tacky - thinking it somehow elevates them when , in fact, nothing could be more tacky than calling someone tacky, or mocking some other person's lifestyle. Because my DH and I stay in a trailer in the summer I frequently get the "trailer trash" BS here, and they have no knowledge whatever how many posters may live in a trailer. Clearly there are many posters here who think that because they have money they are classy - they haven't a clue what makes a woman a lady - and that it has NOTHING to do with money.

It's the actions (whatever you want to call it) that are tacky, not the person. What other word would you like to use instead of "tacky"?