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[151949]

I don't go to obvious gift grab weddings and this one is screaming gift grab.Send back the RSVP that you will not be attending and absolutely do not send a gift.

[missy1]

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@Carmie wrote:

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@Beachy1 wrote:

@Carmie, are you going to go?

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I don't know.  I just opened the invite about an hour ago and was shocked.  I already attended the first marriage of this young man about three years ago.  The marriage didn't even last a year.

I have to think about this.... I may just go to the church.

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How was his first wedding? 

[stevieb]

RSVP that you'd be happy to attend if you can pick the restaurant...

[bri20]

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@Carmie wrote:

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@Beachy1 wrote:

@Carmie, are you going to go?

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I don't know.  I just opened the invite about an hour ago and was shocked.  I already attended the first marriage of this young man about three years ago.  The marriage didn't even last a year.

I have to think about this.... I may just go to the church.

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I think that's reasonable.

[proudlyfromNJ]

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@151949 wrote:

I don't go to obvious gift grab weddings and this one is screaming gift grab.Send back the RSVP that you will not be attending and absolutely do not send a gift.

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I don't know anyone who would have a "gift grab" wedding thank goodness. My friends are not like that. 

[Carmie]

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@missy1 wrote:

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@Carmie wrote:

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@Beachy1 wrote:

@Carmie, are you going to go?

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I don't know.  I just opened the invite about an hour ago and was shocked.  I already attended the first marriage of this young man about three years ago.  The marriage didn't even last a year.

I have to think about this.... I may just go to the church.

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How was his first wedding? 

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The first wedding was very nice with all of the trimmings.  I was invited to the shower too.  The bride's family went all out.  My friend told me that she only had to pay for the reherarsel dinner and a few other things for her son.  

This is man is probably 36 to 38 years old.  He is gainfully employed.  I am going to call my friend tomorrow.  I can't imagine that she approves of this.

[circles]

I hope everyone who attends the Dutch treat dinner realizes what that means...and not surprised at the end of the meal with the bill...

Also...I hope everyone leaves a nice tip...if there are many who show up for dinner...the wait people will be very busy trying to co-ordinate all the meals...it would be a shame to stiff them...

[Lucky Charm]

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@Carmie wrote:

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@missy1 wrote:

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@Carmie wrote:

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@Beachy1 wrote:

@Carmie, are you going to go?

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I don't know.  I just opened the invite about an hour ago and was shocked.  I already attended the first marriage of this young man about three years ago.  The marriage didn't even last a year.

I have to think about this.... I may just go to the church.

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How was his first wedding? 

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The first wedding was very nice with all of the trimmings.  I was invited to the shower too.  The bride's family went all out.  My friend told me that she only had to pay for the reherarsel dinner and a few other things for her son.  

This is man is probably 36 to 38 years old.  He is gainfully employed.  I am going to call my friend tomorrow.  I can't imagine that she approves of this.

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I don't think I'd say anything to the friend.  I understand she's your friend, but he's her son.  Maybe she'll vent first about the situation.  I'm sure she's well aware of it.  I would just listen to what she has to say, but would never say anything negative.  Who knows, maybe this will be the new norm.  oy.

[Carmie]

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@circles wrote:

I hope everyone who attends the Dutch treat dinner realizes what that means...and not surprised at the end of the meal with the bill...

Also...I hope everyone leaves a nice tip...if there are many who show up for dinner...the wait people will be very busy trying to co-ordinate all the meals...it would be a shame to stiff them...

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The menu included mentions that there will be a 20% gratuity charge added for parties of eight or more.

I just looked up Dutch Treat Receptions on the web.  Apparently, they are not unheard of.  This is the first time I have ever heard of them.

[Lucky Charm]

At first I thought the theme of the food would be 'Dutch' dishes/desserts.  I couldn't even think of what country it would be from!

Totally forgot about 'going Dutch' --each pay for their own, or whatever it's called.