Community Chat

[Carmie]

Anyone ever get "invited" to a Dutch treat reception?  We just got a,wedding invitation for the ceremony at a church and a Dutch treat reception afterward.

This is new to me.  We have been invited for coffee and cake type receptions that were very nice, but to be invited to a reception and asked to pay for your own dinner is just plain weird.

[sunshine45]

interesting......no, i have never been invited to a wedding reception where we had to pay for food or drinks.

[Lila Belle]

I've never heard of that but if you're a close friend, why not ?
If you're not close it makes for an interesting thread on some forum.

[MarieIG]

No, I have not.  And if I were, I wouldn't go.  (I typically give a generous gift that more than covers our plate.)

[bri20]

I've never heard of that sort of a wedding...

I'm not sure how I would feel about being invited to something like that. 

[tansy]

Are gifts still expected?  

[Kachina624]

Someone is trying to reach a new level of tackiness?

Gifts should also be Dutch treat.  The happy couple should buy their own.

[Carmie]

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@tansy wrote:

Are gifts still expected?  

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It doesn't say no gifts, so I would think one would be expected.

the invitation is for the church and is in a formal format.  There is a reception card and RSVP card and a copy of a resturant menu.  It is a reception for the son of a friend of mine.... His second wedding, the brides first.

[Chrystaltree2]

Yes, it;s the tackiest thing a couple could ever do.  Hang your head in shame tacky.  I would have a champagne and cake reception before I would make my guests pay for their own meals.  

[Lila Belle]

I take it back. I've been to a few wedding suppers
for friends that married right before deployments and money was tight. Good times, good memories and not an imposition, imo.