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[Snowpuppy]

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@ROMARY wrote:

I've suggested this before, and not too many here were thrilled about the idea, but...........besides volunteering for HFH, try roaming around a large home improvement center, preferably the ones that deal with professional contractors and/or carpenters.  Just look around, see 'what's new' (lol)...........Maybe try to think of a project that you might be interested in doing/making.  Could even be a plank of wood to stain, and place on a table for a Fall decor setting.  Well, it is an idea............

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Just wanted to tell the naysayers that THIS WORKS. With a qualifier.....HD is much more attentive to the customer than other stores.

Dress nicely, hair, mu, nice sweater to show the assets and look around totally confused. I asked about a celing fan and the HD guy gave me everything I needed to know. I said "do you have a list of guys in the area who install?" He said "no, the store doesn't have one but I'm available after 6pm".......

He wasn't my type but gotta tell ya, it does work. Oh, and how do you know if he's married? ASK! It's no longer the 1950's. Women speak up and ask about what they want to know.

[PamfromCT]

I don't know if you have the opportunity to do this in your area, but you might try Speed Dating.  They are organized events where people participate in certain age categories.  They are held in restaurants, and the gals sit each at their own tables.  The guys move from one table to another with enough time to make a conversation.  Both gals and guys can offer a list of who seems appealing to them at the end of the evening.  If there is a mutual interest, both parties are informed, and the rest is up to them.

I don't know all the particulars, but I think you can tell from a short meeting and introducing yourselves whether there's a spark or not.  Like anything else, it's a chance and you have to be careful.

Sounds a little silly to some, but my daughter met the love of her life that way.  Nothing else had worked.  Both she and he were in their 40s, never married before.  Both had careers in fields where they worked long hours, with limited access to people who were available and desirable.

They dated, got engaged, and now have been married for 1 &

1/2 years now.  He is such a nice man and treats her so very well.  Both families are delighted for them.  I have never seen my daughter so happy!  

So so you never know!  As the saying goes, "Keep your heart open, and love will find a way."

[MaggieMack]

I went on the Our Time site a couple years ago just to look, had seen so many ads on TV for it. Signed up for the smallest category I could, and within 15 minutes I had at least 30 "flirts" from guys. I just didn't want to have to deal with telling 99.9% of the guys no, no, no, so I cancelled my membership. I've had friends set me up, all were one and dones. I'm told I am too picky, but, hey, I don't want to have to kiss a lot of frogs.

To me, I think the best way is organically, you and he meet doing something you both enjoy. I have just started seeing a guy I met on the golf course. And it turns out he is the first guy that has appealed to me in the longest time. I'm waiting for that first kiss, know it's coming . . 

[chickenbutt]

I agree with others about meeting people in a place where you have some interests in common.

Meeting men on the internet is just the 21st century version of meeting men in bars, only it is way more dangerous.    If you must do this, just tread lightly, don't give out too much personal information, and only meet in public places.  Still, though...

[ROMARY]

None of my 'Hearts' seem to be working/posting.  I have to continuously sign in, and then, 'low and behold', my hearts didn't register.  So, if any of you have received more than one heart from me, that's the reason why............sorry. 

[ROMARY]

Yes, figure out what interests you, and then go to every event and/or class in that field.  Every weekend, visit or participate in your particular hobby/interest.  Lots of women out there, doing the same, so you might as well enjoy yourself. Lots of good luck to you!

[151949]

Many women will say they have no interests. Well, then you won't be a very interesting person. So think it over and  pick up on a hobby or interest.

[fancy pantsy]

i have been divorced 15 years.  initially, i visited all the dating sites, and had lots of dates and even a couple of short relationships.  but nothing seemed really 'right' ... and so i gave up.

a few years after that, i joined an activity group for senior singles.  we went on dinner cruises, local museums and lunch and dinners and they also had a bowling group and a cards/games group.  

it was in this activity group where i met my fiance.  we have been together four years now.

i strongly recommend some kind of activity group.  even if it's not an actual 'group'  ... as has been mentioned here already, just get involved in some kind of activity.    my fiance's sister recently joined a senior activity group up north and she met a wonderful guy.  they are just 'friends' right now ... but they clearly seem to be hitting it off.

i wish you good luck! 

[Tinkrbl44]

I don't know if this will be of value to anyone here, but it worked well for me a few times.

You connect with someone on a dating site, and decide to meet for coffee .... NEVER lunch or dinner ... too long a time commitment for a first meeting.

Anyway .... a few times I met someone who was nice, but it just wasn't a match ... no chemistry or whatever .... and at the end he asks if we can get together again.  It can be awkward to say "no way" and head for the door, so I politely told them I'd have to get back to them because there was a bit of a "wild card" in meeting him.    

The next day I would sent a flattering email that it was nice to meet and enjoyed his company, but would not like to take this any further ... the reason? .... he reminds me of my "ex".   Not his fault, and not my fault, and he doesn't feel rejected.   

[sgraham30]

Go to Meetup.com & look at what Meetup groups are available in your area. Then zero in on which ones interest you, sign up for them, & start going to Meetups that interest you.

I joined several in my area at the end of July & I've been going to the events that interest me. I haven't met a guy, but then I'm not looking to either. I just want to get together & have fun with other people, both male & female, who have interests similar to mine. So far, I've really enjoyed the events that I've gone to.