Beauty

[beach-mom]

@Goodie2shoes - I would have taken it as a compliment. 

I've had two experiences where strangers asked me what foundation I was wearing - one standing in line at the pharmacy and one while I was away at a workshop!

Of course I was happy to share! One was Mally, and one was Ilia. The lady who liked the Ilia took out her phone and ordered it!  

[PamHeet]

Goodness, I certainly wouldn’t let it bother me. You meant to give a genuine compliment, and it was taken the wrong way. Nothing you can do about that.

I’ve been complimented on my makeup, outfits, specific items of clothing, jewelry, perfumes, etc. I am always very grateful for the kind words, genuinely flattered, and say “thank you.” I spend most of my time around the house and am typically rather dumpily adorned, so I appreciate compliments when I do get the chance to dress nicely.

Some people are extremely touchy and need to be tip-toed around. I find them exhausting to deal with.

[AngelPuppy1]

I'm sure you were trying to give a sincere compliment and never thought it could or would be construed as a negative comment.  I often admire other women's makeup application but I don't ask them about it or comment on it because I'm not sure if it's too personal or if they will take it the wrong way.  If someone told me they liked my makeup or it looked great, I would be thrilled!  Compliments are few and far between these days!  It's often hard to find the right thing to say without inadvertently having someone take it the wrong way.  Maybe she is a person who does not wear makeup every day or often and was feeling kind of insecure or unsure about it to begin with.  

[wagirl]

I can see where that would not be a compliment--to me that means the make up is more noticable and maybe too much--- but then again--applying make up, is an art. The goal is not to see the actual make up. However, flawless, smooth, perfect skin is not usually a normal thing without help ---you need somehow to cover it all. Think that person over re- acted but I prob would go check too. Have seen a few people that looked like they were wearing a mask, they had so much stuff on. 

[Midmod]

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@monicakm wrote:

@Goodie2shoes 

I don't think the average person would react that way. I know I wouldn't.  I am often complimented on my makeup or my looks without makeup being mentioned. I appreciate both and consider both a positive comment. It was very nice of you to compliment her makeup even though it backfired. Don't keep her reaction from complimenting others.

@monicakm 

I'm amazed at the reactions to a simple compliment. I completely agree with you. 

Whatever happened to taking a compliment in the spirit in which it was given? 

I wonder also if this is a regional thing. I've never heard of PC involved in giving compliments.  I've often complimented someone on their makeup. As a matter of fact, about two weeks ago I complimented a young lady on hers. She glowed at the compliment. 🤷

[monicakm]

@Midmod 

It's getting to where you can't say anything to anyone. That's sad. I love talking to others and complimenting them and wouldn't hesitate at all to compliment a lady on her makeup.  That could make somebody's day.  Apparently not this particular lady though.

I strongly disagree that makeup should be worn in one particular way. It's not a science, it's a art. It's a self-expression. And anyone can wear their makeup anyway they want. Anyway they feel good about it. It might not be what somebody else would do but that's okay. If I wanted to look like I didn't have any makeup on, I wouldn't put any makeup on. And maybe, just maybe I'm blind. Perfect Segway to my next thread.

[smoochy]

 I make it a policy now to keep my mouth shut. No remarks to anyone about their appearance or their fragrance. Can't get in trouble that way. 

[San Antonio Gal]

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@monicakm wrote:

@Midmod 

It's getting to where you can't say anything to anyone. That's sad. I love talking to others and complimenting them and wouldn't hesitate at all to compliment a lady on her makeup.  That could make somebody's day.  Apparently not this particular lady though.

I strongly disagree that makeup should be worn in one particular way. It's not a science, it's a art. It's a self-expression. And anyone can wear their makeup anyway they want. Anyway they feel good about it. It might not be what somebody else would do but that's okay. If I wanted to look like I didn't have any makeup on, I wouldn't put any makeup on. And maybe, just maybe I'm blind. Perfect Segway to my next thread.

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@monicakm @Midmod  -  I agree with you.  I've given compliments on someone's makeup and I've received them.  The OP's neighbor is too sensitive and insecure.

If I want a natural look, I won't wear makeup.  When I wear makeup, I'm not trying to fool anyone into thinking I don't have any makeup on.  

[Icegoddess]

Anyone can take offense at anything these days.  Even if you had said "Wow, you look nice" they could be offended thinking "What, I don't normally look nice?".  Since I rarely wear makup and I do see people from church out and about on occasion I just figure they think I clean up nice. 

[teganslaw]

I wouldn't compliment that person again. She sounds insecure and could take anything the wrong way. Best not to deal with people like that. It's her problem, not the person who made the effort to compliment. She needs to work on some issues.