Beauty

[Enufstuff]

It seems that in recent years, people have become so defensive

and just waiting  to be offended by something or someone.

Why can't someone just accept a kind compliment and not take it as something that has a negative connotation or an insult?

It seems just simple communication can be misconstrued as

being contentious in some way, by angry people on the defense.

It is sad that a well meaning, positive compliment can be taken as negative.

[bells4me]

I wouldn't want a compliment on my makeup.  I would assume I had too much on.  But, she should have just said thank you & let it go.

[Beacon girl]

The woman in my oral surgeon office can at times be unfriendly and then your best friend. So I was so taken back when she complimented me on my makeup . I took it as a compliment ! By the way it was Laura Gellar’s Baked Balance N Brightner😊

[monicakm]

@Enufstuff 

One of the pearls of wisdom my mother bestowed on me was to always graciously accept a compliment.

[monicakm]

@bells4me 

If the person who complimented you thought you had too much on, I don't think you would be getting a compliment from them.  

[NYCLatinaMe]

@Goodie2shoes   I don't think it would upset me, though I don't think I would ever be wearing great make-up!

I think the new etiquette is not to compliment the thing, but to compliment the person.  You look great!  But then again, of course a sensitive might think, oh, so I look terrible the rest of the time.  I think people are more sensitive these days.  No compliments in the workplace though, where I think compliments are easily misinterpreted (harassment).  Some think a compliment is a "pass.".  I will always gladly accept a compliment unless it seems intended to influence me in some kind of way, like a pass.  Which does happen.

[San Antonio Gal]

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@monicakm wrote:

@bells4me 

If the person who complimented you thought you had too much on, I don't think you would be getting a compliment from them.  

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@monicakm  -  This is a good point.  You're right.  If someone thinks you've got too much makeup on, she would not compliment you.  She would keep her mouth shut!

[Aishely]

Compliments can sometimes be misunderstood, especially about makeup. If you genuinely like someone's makeup, it's fine to compliment it, but be careful how you say it. If you're unsure, try focusing on their overall look instead. People usually appreciate kind words, so keep giving compliments! Have a nice day.