Beauty

[Goodie2shoes]

So a neighbor of mine was going out to a party all dressed up and pretty and as we were talking I mentioned that her makeup looked very nice. She got upset and took it the wrong way thinking I ment she had to much makeup on and said she was going back home to redo it. I tried to explain that I was saying it looked nice (and it was) because it matched her complexion very well but she said to her it meant she had to much on since I made mention of it. So my question here is should you compliment makeup results or not?  I think unless it's my daughter I will just let it go.( I wouldn't want her going out with blush on one cheek and not the other) I was just trying to give a compliment but wow I didn't expect that response.  Have you received compliments on your makeup ? I have an appreciated it   

[Group 5 minus 1]

Don't think it's your fault. Some people are just VERY sensitive to compliments. 

[ahoymate]

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@Goodie2shoes wrote:

So a neighbor of mine was going out to a party all dressed up and pretty and as we were talking I mentioned that her makeup looked very nice. She got upset and took it the wrong way thinking I ment she had to much makeup on and said she was going back home to redo it. I tried to explain that I was saying it looked nice (and it was) because it matched her complexion very well but she said to her it meant she had to much on since I made mention of it. So my question here is should you compliment makeup results or not?  I think unless it's my daughter I will just let it go.( I wouldn't want her going out with blush on one cheek and not the other) I was just trying to give a compliment but wow I didn't expect that response.  Have you received compliments on your makeup ? I have an appreciated it   

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My 2cents: A neighbor? No! People are so defensive, angry, self absorbed today. No!

I would not appreciate someone saying my makeup looked good unless it was someone like a daughter, mother, BFF. 

[Nightowlz]

My sisters tell me I look the same with it as without so why bother. It's because I don't wear much. I hate makeup.

We were out all day yesterday. I could not wait to get home so I could wash my face. 

[Love my grandkids]

@Goodie2shoes Sigh. Sometimes you can't win for losing. Just don't mention it again. Seems like she takes compliments the wrong way. Nothing for you to bother with, it's on her. Personally I think it was very nice of you.

[Icegoddess]

It's probably because she's heard it said that if someone compliments you on your makeup they are noticing your makeup, not you, especially now that many go for a more natural look.  They seem to want you to believe that they just look that nice without the benefit of makeup.  Better to say, "You look nice" or something like that.  I've heard the same said about perfume.  When I did wear perfume I was very sensitive to wearing too much, so if someone complimented me on it, I was always concernted that I had too much on.  

Now, on the few occaions I do wear makeup, I go all out, so I know nobody thinks I'm not wearing makeup. 

[on the bay]

@Goodie2shoes

Maybe she was not used to wearing makeup so for someone to compliment her on it, she thought maybe it shouldn't be noticed so much and she was worried if she had too much or something.

I think you just gave her a nice spontaneous compliment thinking yes her makeup was pretty but I agree with others that she seems just super sensitive and not confident about wearing makeup maybe.

Yes, I guess just say, she looks nice.

One of my daughters always does the most wonderful natural looking eye make-up. I always tell her how much I like it and she says thank you! But everyone is different in how they take a compliment.

Like you could say you look nice and someone might think-wait I don't look nice other times lol?!

Sometimes, yeah, you can't win!

[Pink123]

Thats a tough one.  I've really never heard a compliment on makeup.  On a full on outfit yes of course.  Like "You look so pretty and/or I like your look and you always dress so nice."

Honestly if the coment was only with "makeup" I do find it a little weird myself".  

I never pay attention and do not engage with neighbors. I find it best to just keep a distance.  Just ignore it and don't let it take up space in your head.  My late Mom in an over 55 development did the same thing to her. They always said "you look so nice in a demeaning way".  It's true because I witnessed it when I visited.

The kitty cats never stop no matter the age.  Enjoy and I'm sure you looked very pretty as you were noticed.  Don't think otherwise. It is actually a compliment and you bothered to look pretty.

[J Town Girl]

A few years ago I stopped in to the shop owned by the lady who does my facials.  I had been running errands and needed to pick up a skin care item that she had ordered for me.  Normally when I go for a facial I wear only minimum make-up so she had never seen how I look when I spend more time on my make-up.

Her first words were wow your make-up looks terrific.  You've applied it with such a skillful hand it really looks great.  

I certainly didn't take it as a criticism.  I felt it was a compliment.  I would never get upset by someone saying something nice about my make-up.  

There's no such thing as looking completely natural when you apply make-up.  That's the reason we use it.  We want to enhance our good features and play down the features that we don't like.

Why would someone look to be offended when no offense was meant.   

[haddon9]

@Goodie2shoes I think in the future you should say that her skin looks great!  Or you could compliment the lipstick color. 

I can sort of understand why she might think that she has too much on by what you said but it really depends on the person.

Recently I was at the cleaners and the woman behind the counter told me that I had very nice skin....of course it was due to my makeup but she made me feel good.