Personal rant - Page 8

panda1234 · ‎04-27-2015

I think when you are in the second half of your life you don't want people in your life that are takers, never giving back. If they are mean or just sucking the life out of you, move on. I have cut a couple of people off for that reason. I would be exhausted getting off the phone with them because it was always about them and their problems.

TX-starlight · ‎03-10-2010

@Still keeper of the koi I wish I could "heart" your post more than once. Your msg must have a special meaning to me, my name is Mary Ann, lol.

jeanlake · ‎03-10-2010

Tx Starlight - You made me grin when you said you'd probably regret posting this. Most of us feel that way when we express an opinion or share our hearts. But you have lots of support.

I discovered I cannot control anyone and I can't control random things that come my way. That's been my epiphany. Why get so worked up over things I cannot control. My friend lives by this creed: They need me more than I need them. She's a delightful, generous person and very few people can phase her.

My manager gave me a performance appraisal, complimenting that he wished he had more employees as consistently pleasant. I told him my secret. I don't overly care about things or people. I just do my job and go home.

I like what mominohio said -- because she doesn't want to hold grudges, she opts not to overly invest in people or care too much [paraphrasing] but that's similar to what I told my boss. My epiphany is learn what to really care about. It's much less in life than we think. Let the rest go. Honor your healthy boundaries and fewer people can negatively phase you.

"I took a walk in the woods and came out taller than the trees." Henry David Thoreau

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

I have always said what I thought, stood up for myself, but made myself too available to do things for others I think. Now I am taking our needs first in most cases, but I am more laid back, and small stuff doesn't bother me so much.

I am a kinder gentler person in many respects.

Mom2Dogs · ‎03-09-2010

@lOVETOSHOP...dang I could have written your post! I just turned 63, yikes, where has the time gone!!

I am cranky, don't wanna be, but work has been crazy, customers....most are good...some...very demanding! I am feeling a bit left out with my friends...not sure I am being left out, just feels that way...sheesh I sound like I am 16!

My 2 best friends are sisters....and most times their other sister joins us...now I feel like I am the odd man out when we are together. I miss the fun of the three of us doing lunch, shopping etc....the other sister has kids that constatnly call when we are out...phone rings all the time, which I find very irritating....and she endlessly talks about her grandkids...

It is not a lot of fun for me anymore.....

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

@Mom2Dogs wrote:
@lOVETOSHOP...dang I could have written your post! I just turned 63, yikes, where has the time gone!!

I am cranky, don't wanna be, but work has been crazy, customers....most are good...some...very demanding! I am feeling a bit left out with my friends...not sure I am being left out, just feels that way...sheesh I sound like I am 16!

My 2 best friends are sisters....and most times their other sister joins us...now I feel like I am the odd man out when we are together. I miss the fun of the three of us doing lunch, shopping etc....the other sister has kids that constatnly call when we are out...phone rings all the time, which I find very irritating....and she endlessly talks about her grandkids...
It is not a lot of fun for me anymore.....

When your friends suggest lunch or shopping, ask if the third sister is coming, if the answer is yes then decline. If they ask you why, tell them.

TX-starlight · ‎03-10-2010

@jeanlake Well said!

Mom2Dogs · ‎03-09-2010

@occasionalrain....I have done that several times......we live in a rural area so there is not a lot to do so saying 'can't go this time' is easy.

The additional person has changed the feeling of the group for me.....

apple1964 · ‎08-07-2013

I am in my 50s and it seems I get annoyed with people very easily. I tell you if I can shut off the world I would. I have learned that you can tune people out by just ignoring them or saying I do not appreciate that and walk away it seems to work for me.