Personal rant - Page 7

this is my nic · ‎03-30-2010

As an older woman, how did that happen so quickly? Anyway, I don't think we are irritable, we are just sick and tired of putting up with the bad behavior of others. We were taught to be "nice" and not to rock the boat. So, we have endured years of being disrespected and our viewpoints trivialized and we've had it! As a younger woman, I never would speak up to someone exhibiting bad behavior or being disrespectful to me. Those days are over! 😎

lovesrecess · ‎03-14-2010

Life is too short to surround yourself with people who mistreat you with comments that are mean and hurtful. I cross those people off my list and don't miss them one bit. You might want to do the same.

lovesrecess · ‎03-14-2010

When we are working, we usually have to put up with a certain amount of bs and rude people....without responding...when we retire, we don't have to deal with it like that anymore! Either tell these people how you feel or just write them off. Life is too short to feel hurt and harbor resentment for other's disrespectful behavior.

lovesrecess · ‎03-14-2010

I Agree! Reclaim your life for yourself.

lovesrecess · ‎03-14-2010

Forgiving this person does not make the hurt disappear. She needs to reclaim her own sense of worth and eliminate the toxic people in her life. We all do.

lOVETOSHOP · ‎10-26-2010

Reading these posts really clicks with me...I turned 55 in early July and was commenting to my mother-in-law the other day that I'm feeling particularly cranky, especially in the last year or so!

It seems everything irritates me.....driving, grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning up after people, things that never irritated me to such extremes before. At first I blamed it on menopause but now, I think that maybe, as others have stated, a lot of it has to do with just reaching your capacity for tolerance after having to demonstrate it so much of your life! I've driven for almost 40 years, grocery shopped and cooked for about 33 years, same for cleaning...guess I'm just "over it" now??!!

I'm finding I'm happier having "my space", not committing to things I don't want to and not worrying if I've offended anyone, hanging out with my beloved pets who don't judge me or have expectations of me...they are there with unconditional love daily! I surround myself by those most important to me...and only people who are uplifting and bring joy to my life.

It's very freeing and kind of a "light bulb" moment in your life and it feels good! l

pugvette74 · ‎06-11-2010

@TX-starlightPlease do not regret writing this post! Reading your post and all the beautiful posts made me feel better. I hope they helped you. I've had an epiphany myself in the last month. You are not alone at all.

libbyannE · ‎10-27-2010

@TX-starlight

I hear you. I reached that point with a friend around age 40. Maybe it was a life stage vs. age issue or hormones or maybe it was because of my corporate responsibilities plus a sudden death in my family which turned my world upside-down. I don't know. But Suddenly, I just couldn't handle that person anymore. She was always needy and the only friend of mine who was competitive and regularly tossed putdowns into our chats. I never responded in kind but just let it go. I'd known her since grade school. But she had actually hurt me many times over the years when she would say things on purpose to burst my bubble when I shared some bit of happiness with her. Suddenly, I thought, "Why do I put up with the jibes and one-upsmanship? I am not like that. No one in my circle of friends behaves that way. Every chat with her has stressful moments of HER making. Enough." And I did something I had never done and just dropped her. I know she was jealous and insecure, but I realized that we were 40, for heaven's sake, and she just wasn't going to grow up. I'm not sorry.