Among Friends

[TX-starlight]

I'm a senior lady, & something odd is going on with me. Lately, it seems lots of little things get on my nerves. I'm about to become a hermit/recluse, just not to have to deal with people. Recently a friend really hurt my feeling. She knows she did, but hasn't made an attempt to apologize. I haven't spoken to her since. I mentioned the incident to another friend of ours. The 2nd friend tried to somewhat smooth it over, by saying the other couldn't understand why I got so upset. SO' the 1 who said it to begin with, knows she was wrong. I have sent this lady many cards during her time of sickness & birthdays. I'm not going to make a big deal of it, but I'm also not going to forget it. (The comment was about my weight & health). Most of the time I wouldn't have really thought too much, but this really irritated me. There are lots of other things with different friends that have started to irritate me. Do I need something to take "the edge off", or is this normal in aging?? I just don't feel the need to let people walk on me, & say something like this to me. I would never, in a million years, say anything that I know might offend a friend. I'm not 1 to say "you NEED to do this or that", I keep thoughts to myself. 

*(I'll probably regret this posting).

[catwhisperer]

@TX-starlight....I totally understand where you are coming from. The older I get, the more irritable I am. I'm in my late 60's. I have no tolerance for stupidity or inconsiderate people. I have spent too many years putting up with other people's nonsense and am not taking it anymore. So, in other words, you are not alone. Hope this helps.

[QVCkitty1]

I think regardless of our age sometimes we just get tired of letting things go. At some point you have to draw a line and decide what you will tolerate.

[TX-starlight]

@catwhisperer Tks! I'm almost 66, I was beginning to think I was the "crabby old lady down the street",lol. That's exactly how I feel, tired of everyone's nonsense. Don't even get me started on my family, who thinks I'm non-existant (a whole other thread). 

[catwhisperer]

@TX-starlight....I am the crabby old lady, and you know what? I don't give a darn. 

[Mominohio]

I am becoming a really odd mix of someone I don't know as I age.

I used to be so impatient, and thought I had to say whatever my opinion was in a situation. The older I get, many of the things that are in my head, I'm taking longer to process, and often decide it simply isn't worth it to let it come out of my mouth. Usually because the person or situation isn't worth the bother of what I'm considering saying. That was never me in the past. 

I also am much less tolerant of others rudeness, selfishness, and neediness, including those closest to me. I don't tolerate it anymore, but I feel the need to simply tell them once, and move on but often distance myself from them emotionally somewhat now, and without drama or feelings of loss when doing so.

I hate pouting and grudges so I won't do that, but I do definitely find myself less invested in a lot of people in my life, and I'm really ok with it being that way. 

[bamasec]

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@catwhisperer wrote:

@TX-starlight....I totally understand where you are coming from. The older I get, the more irritable I am. I'm in my late 60's. I have no tolerance for stupidity or inconsiderate people. I have spent too many years putting up with other people's nonsense and am not taking it anymore. So, in other words, you are not alone. Hope this helps.

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I could not have said it better, you took the words right out of my mouth. I always wondered if I was the only one who felt this way

[catwhisperer]

@bamasec....(((Hugs)))  You are not alone.

[catwhisperer]

Just to add, I have family and friends who have relied on me for emotional support for years, and I have been there for them, but I am now at a point in my life where I just don't have it in me to give as much as I would like to. 

[hsawaknow]

I have been quite cranky myself and less tolarant of stupid and rude people myself.