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[jackthebear]

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@Frosted Cake wrote:

Thank you for all your replies.

I didn't know what to think about all of this.

It's a shame because she did provide good tips in the job search.

She sent the e-mails (which I have all saved) via her personal account, but many times during work hours.

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good for you for saving them.

I realized your priority at the moment is finding a job, so getting yourself wound up over this person wont' get you anywhere

However at some point someone should be informed that she is doing this.

[adoreqvc]

Frosted Cake

You said you went to your LOCAL CITY who has a program for job seekers.....

Well if this is your local City Employment Community that you went to that is separate from any Religious Organization, and therefore religion should not come into play at all when being interviewed by one of their Professionals.

That being said, if the above is what happened, then that woman crossed the line between representing her City/State/Government position, and forcing her Religious beliefs on applicants. 

She never ever should have discussed her Church, God, or her faith with you as you were there solely for one purpose..... to become better qualified and learn the best techniques to help you find a part time job, and not for her religious input at all.

I also wonder how many other  applicants she did the same to so she needs to be stopped now.

Keep those emails and make print outs for yourself, as those same email communications may also be on her work pc so they would also be easily tracked by whoever does the investigation.......and only God knows how many other emails of the same sort she may also have on her work pc.

She deserves to be terminated pronto, no ifs, and, or buts.......and you Frosted Cake deserve to get all the help you need from a qualified person, who does what they are being paid for....... which does not include coercion to force others to follow their Church, or religious beliefs, and go to their Church Services with them, before they continue to help them with regards to getting the resource information and help they came for, and hopefully bring successfully hired.

She does report to someone so find out who that would be, and if you have no clue call your State Unemployment DIvision and ask them as they would probably know, since they also deal with the same Government help Agencies which secure positions for individuals, and also assist them with ensuring they receive all the needed information pertaining to finding employment.

I am so sorry this happened to you and probably to many others as well, but if it happened to me I would not be able to rest, unless she was dismissed for what she did........and good luck to you.

"May you find that part time job, and have wonderful success in all your future endeavors".

[bonnielu]

You could report her but it would not lead to you getting the job.  You could go to her church and play along but that would go against what you feel is right.  Or you could just move on and find another opportunity which would be my best advice.

[hckynut]

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@Frosted Cake wrote:

I really need some advice.

 I had an interview that didn't go so well.  I e-mailed this gal and told her how disappointed I was and discouraged.   She wrote me an e-mail response that stated unless I come to her church and accept her God, I would never find my way.    

my advice? none,  but i do enjoy reading fiction novels like this.

hnj

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[ChynnaBlue]

She needs to be reported because you can bet that you are not the first or the last person she has done this to. It's not legal for her to refuse to help you because of your religion. If her manager does not help you out, I would contact your city council representative. If still nothing is done, I would contact the local media and share those emails. 

[Trix]

It doesnt matter which side of the desk the person is sitting on, without question no one should try to influence another's religious beliefs in a business environment.  I would express concern about the matter to whomever this agent reports to and leave it at that.  On the other hand, I have to ask, do you think perhaps there was a point where you allowed the relationship to cross the line from being a professional one to something possibly more social? This did not have to be an outright declaration of being open to getting, but some little thing which may have cracked the door for the agent to come up with the church invitation.  

[mzlg]

@Frosted Cake, This person is as @jackthebear said "totally out of line".  As others have said, she's employed by the city/state government and this type of conduct is not part of her job description.  

Print out the e-mails and report her to her supervisors, this needs to be addressed.  She may have done this to others seeking assistance in employment. 

There are a number of groups that will help with a job search - there are Job Fairs / Career Fairs - check the newspaper, on-line, ask others / networking.

You did not mention what line of work you are searching for - there are companies like Costco, Home Depot, Lowes, Geico (other insurance companies) retail.  You might consider a Temp agency. 

Check on-line for tips on handling interviews/answering tough questions: like "Job wise, what is your weakness in?" - turning a weakness into a strength - "I'm detail oriented"

Just my thoughts ... best wishes in your search.  

[jackthebear]

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@Trix wrote:

It doesnt matter which side of the desk the person is sitting on, without question no one should try to influence another's religious beliefs in a business environment.  I would express concern about the matter to whomever this agent reports to and leave it at that.  On the other hand, I have to ask, do you think perhaps there was a point where you allowed the relationship to cross the line from being a professional one to something possibly more social? This did not have to be an outright declaration of being open to getting, but some little thing which may have cracked the door for the agent to come up with the church invitation.  

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IMO probably not,  I think people like that see it as a mission to invite and draw in people to their churches/places of worship without been asked.

[2blonde]

This person needs to be reported, even if it has to be done anonymously. I'm a Christian, but I would never use my church or my beliefs to blackmail a person.  She is way out of line and must be stopped before she puts more people in such an awkward position.  She is breaking the law.  I can't imagine what church would condone such behavior.

[Frosted Cake]

We talked about my situation (financial) but most of our conversations were about job related issues.    She wanted me to meet a friend of hers who was job hunting too, but I didn't follow through with that.   

She only wrote me via her personal e-mail.   Yet, she did e-mail me from work and talk to me via phone from work.   Outside looking in, I see someone who has a great job yet violates her position.   It makes it more frustrating when you are someone looking for one, wondering how someone like that gets so lucky.

I almost felt like sending her an e-mail asking if she would only give me career guidance, etc. on a spiritual level and if that was still applicable.  I wanted to see what she would say.  She might see it as me wanting to take her up on her offer, but it would also give me confirmation of her intentions.   That way there is no confusion about it.  It's scary going to her superioris, especially if they really like her and would defend her in any way.   The last thing I need now in my life is any legal issues.