Not Sure How to Handle this Situation - Page 3

Frosted Cake · ‎02-01-2016

@mzlg wrote:
@Frosted Cake, This person is as @jackthebear said "totally out of line". As others have said, she's employed by the city/state government and this type of conduct is not part of her job description.
Print out the e-mails and report her to her supervisors, this needs to be addressed. She may have done this to others seeking assistance in employment.

There are a number of groups that will help with a job search - there are Job Fairs / Career Fairs - check the newspaper, on-line, ask others / networking.
You did not mention what line of work you are searching for - there are companies like Costco, Home Depot, Lowes, Geico (other insurance companies) retail. You might consider a Temp agency.

Check on-line for tips on handling interviews/answering tough questions: like "Job wise, what is your weakness in?" - turning a weakness into a strength - "I'm detail oriented"

Just my thoughts ... best wishes in your search.

You're so sweet. Times have changed though. Now, you have to show an actual "weakness," otherwise they poo-poo you. I used "perfectionist" at first and that doesn't fly anymore. It's all about behavioral responses now. You need to show a real weakness and then show how you've overcome it. It's all a game I'm finding.

goldensrbest · ‎03-10-2010

@hckynut wrote:
@Frosted Cake wrote:
I really need some advice.

I had an interview that didn't go so well. I e-mailed this gal and told her how disappointed I was and discouraged. She wrote me an e-mail response that stated unless I come to her church and accept her God, I would never find my way.

my advice? none, but i do enjoy reading fiction novels like this.

hnj

Why say anything?

When you lose some one you L~O~V~E, that Memory of them, becomes a TREASURE.

athenian · ‎03-18-2012

@Frosted Cake It sounds like you are doing the right things to find a job. I would keep concentrating on that now. When you have your job, then I think you should report this to someone. I'll bet people who work with her already know something is off. Blackmail seems like a very odd way to fill church pews.

Day1128 · ‎06-27-2010

Please contact your city's human resources department and share the emails and what happened to you. Basing hiring decisions on religion is just asking for the city to have a lawsuit filed against them.

jewel3 · ‎03-13-2010

Perhaps you seem needier and less confident to her than you are. If you want to work for the city, don't do anything at this point. Avoid her and continue on.

mzlg · ‎04-28-2011

@hckynut wrote:

my advice? none, but i do enjoy reading fiction novels like this.

hnj

@hckynut, Oh my, you just might be right, but I hope not because I don't want my comment(s) to be connected on a thread that is just an act/fictional situation ... there is another post with alot of drama and a few compared it with a bologna sandwich that had a slice of swiss cheese (full of holes). Oh well, I'm done with this one ... I said my piece and wished the poster well. The End.

KathyPet · ‎03-09-2010

She absolutely should be reported. You were strong enough to not give in to her bullying tactics to come to her church but other people may not be as strong as you are and may feel obligated to go along with this. This is absolutely against the law. Go to your city's web site and determine where within the city bureaucracy this particular dept. falls. You should see a hierarchy listed of who runs that dept. Contact that person via phone or e mail and tell them the situation. If you are not comfortable doing that then I would contact the City Council representative for your district, tell them what occurred and ask them how to handle it.

Wackers3 · ‎03-26-2010

I would try and locate an official, supervisor, manager or whatever the title might be who oversees this service offered by the city and sit down with them to discuss your dilemma. You don't have to approach it in a negative light but rather as someone seeking some advice. You could even leave her name out of it, if possible.

If this woman is a valuable asset to this program then possibly, if she is given the proper parameters that need to followed (since she is technically representing the city which is a government entity) she will refrain from pushing her personal spiritual views on others yet still be a beneficial asset.

I do think you should let someone in authority know or this is just going to be repeated over and over and potentially driving others away from taking advantage of this service altogether because they didn't know how else to handle it. And that would definitely be a real shame for their sakes.

Good luck on all fronts!

Frosted Cake · ‎02-01-2016

I am not writing fiction here. I came here for some advice. I know some of these boards can get unfriendly.

I wish I didn't have this situation and I could find a reputable person to guide me and I wouldn't have to feel betrayed by people who don't do their jobs professionally. I have been out of the workforce for years after some health issues and the loss of my significant other, I am having financial problems and need to go to work when I should be thinking of retiring. I wish it were all fiction!!!!

I'm a spiritual person. I have respect for those who have their own beliefs. But, there is a time and place to share them. I would never impose my beliefs on any one else.

cookinfreak · ‎03-31-2010

I agree with adoreqvc. You were talking to her for employment, not religious direction. I hope you have good luck in your search, and let us know what you decide to do. If it were me,I would report her. You just have to decide if that's what you want and when you feel comfortable doing it. As others have brought up also, I'm sure you are not the only one. I am a Christian and I know the difference between witnessing and forcing my beliefs and religion. If shw were a true Christian, she would be happy you have your faith.

cookin