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[Lucky Charm]

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@Luvsmyfam wrote:

@Lucky Charm HE texted me Last Thurs and told me his plans for the weekend.So when Monday comes and I hear nothing,I just had a awful gut feeling.

Some posters on here have said I am to needy.Unless they know me personally,they have no idea.Yes,I have reached out for opinions,and find most of them very calming,reassuring to me.One thing I am not is needy

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Were you hoping to get together with him over the long weekend?  Or had either of you already made plans with others?

I guess if he were in the dating game-- as you are, perhaps he met someone else?  That can happen.  It can still happen for you.

I could be hard for him to let you (or someone/anyone else) know that he just doesn't feel the same way you do.  I know it's a weak cop-out!

So if you deleted his number, I think he could still call you.  It would just show up as a number (unknown?), but unless you blocked him/his number, I guess then he wouldn't be able to contact you at all.  I guess a recording?

But then there would be no reason to keep looking for a text from him....

You wouldn't text him and ask what he's planning on doing for the next weekend?  Or some night this week to go out and grab a burger or pizza somewhere?

That way you'll most likely get a reply and hopefully a good one!

[50Mickey]

This was a relatively new relationship?  It has only been one week since you heard from him. Maybe he had a busy week and had other things on his mind. If he did want to break it off it is not unusual to just not text or call. Not everyone is comfortable ending a relationship. Yes he may have taken the easy way out but that happens. 

If you do see him in social settings smile and ask him how he doing and then move on. In time you will feel better. And maybe you will hear from him later on. Time will help heal your sadness.  

[Estellee]

@Luvsmyfam I remember when you told us about this man. I would just play it by ear for now. You mentioned you go to the same places so see what happens. If he is the type of man that would treat you that way and not giving any explanation then he is not for you, or probably anyone else for that matter. Hang in there!

[IMW]

I'm sorry for your pain, but be glad it happened now and not later when you might have been more invested in the relationship.

[Luvsmyfam]

@Ainhisg I want to thank you for your very kind and encouraging advice.I am hoping as time goes by my feelings will diminish for him.He has been a single person for 20 yrs,so I'm sure he is set in his ways.

Hope your weekend has been awsome

[Shanus]

I'm not sure I've followed this situation from the beginning. 

Relationships, friendships, etc. are so complicated @Luvsmyfam  and at times hurtful, confusing, on and off or happy or sad.

Expectations can be harmful to you, I get it. I'm not sure holding out hope is helpful for you, but I do understand the need for some type of closure. 

[meallen616]

[Shanus]

When I'm distraut and ringing my hands, I refer to Psalm 30:5. ......."weeping may last for the night, but a shout of joy comes in the morning"....(loose translation), but it keeps me positive and hopeful.

[SportyShorty07]

@Luvsmyfam  I forgot to mention that I'm single too- I'm a great catch and you are a great catch too ! It can sometimes hurt to be ghosted by a guy, but the gift of it all is that it frees us up to meet a better guy!  I say cry it out, do self care, go out with gal pals and even take yourself out on a date! I'm proud of you for dating- don't let this one guy get you down for too long, because I'm sure there are a number of great men who would love to date you!   I'm rooting for you, Luvsmyfam!   

[reiki604]

It depeends how long you've been seeing him. According to your posts it couldn't have been more than 2-3 times. Sorry to say that's not a relationship only the beginnings of getting to know one another. Better it end at the beginning berfore real emotions and life complications get involved which would make it hurt even more and be more complicated. Look at it this way, He did you a favor. BTW, what has he done to show you that you are in any way special or important to him? Why is he worthy of you, given his behavior?