IVE BEEN MIA - Page 6

Etoile308 · ‎01-04-2014

I say keep an open mind. It may be that the relationship was more important to you than it was/is to him. I think it's too soon to be closing doors. Time will tell.

I don't understand deleting his phone number. Does that include blocking his number? If so then he wouldn't be able to text.

I think if he contacts you again you need to decide if you think this is someone you want to continue dating or just remain friends with.

Desertdi · ‎03-13-2010

Does this man have CHILDREN? If so, they probably found out about your relationship, and decided to put an end to it. REASON??? Their daddy is SPENDING THEIR "INHERITANCE" on someone else.

OR....maybe he thinks YOU don't have enough money to SUPPORT HIM.

I can't tell you how many men have asked ME "how much I'm worth"... This is really a fact that widows and divorcees have to face. It's not a joke. And, NO....I am not bitter. I wised up and faced reality.

♥Surface of the Sun♥

MoJoV · ‎10-01-2010

I disagree with posters who say "he might be too busy". No-one is too busy to tap out a few words in a text, no one.

Trees are the lungs of the Earth

Travone · ‎10-14-2016

@Luvsmyfam

No advice from me, you're getting enough of that. Just wanted to say I feel for you. Hang in there.

lynnie61 · ‎04-28-2010

@Luvsmyfam I'm sorry you are feeling this way. If he ghosted you, then he wasn't that great to begin with. If someone truly wants to end things, then just say so. Just my opinion. Men are different than us. Just because you were excited and shared some different date info here, certainly doesn't make you needy. When we are happy and enjoying life, sometimes we share. I'm sorry you're feeling sad. Do something fun for YOU.

Rockycoast · ‎03-02-2016

He was not the one for you. It takes a few seconds to check in with a quick text or call. Unless he was in an accident that rendered him incapable of reaching out to you, he did not take this relationship as seriously as you did. Have a good cry than buck up and move on from him. Go out and do something you really enjoy. Something fun for you personally.
Do Not go to his home or work to talk to him as a previous poster suggested. That is a sign you are desperate and I am sure you do not want to be seen that way. Give yourself a bit of time to recoup and then get back out there. Not necessarily actively looking for a new person, but just live your life.

Ainhisg · ‎03-09-2010

@pdlinda wrote:
@Tissyanne I disagree. I wouldn't "ambush" him.

I recall reading a book (they also made a movie) called "He's Not That Into You." Whatever answers you're seeking will probably be answered by reading that book.

The bottom line is (from what I recall) if he ghosted you after dating for awhile, he may have gone back to his former spouse, met someone new, or reconnected with someone he had a relationship with prior to meeting you.

I distinctly recall that the men interviewed in the book stressed that if he "was into you" and had any other type of problem (work/health/financial/children) he would have confided in you and included you in dealing with it.

Anyhow, the best of luck to you in finding the emotional strength to accept this situation and getting to the point of understanding that his obvious lack of respect for you by being so insensitive showed he has character problems that you're better off not being subjected to any longer.

This!

Teddixat · ‎10-04-2010

@Luvsmyfam First, I'm sorry this happened. But it does happen - there are millions of stories similar to yours and the sadness and feeling of loss as bad as it feels right now, will pass. It just doesn't feel like it at the moment.

i think the comments about your being too needy abd falling too fast are ridiculous abd very judgmental. We are all different and some of us fall harder than others.

i don't know this person or the seriousness of the relationship, so I can't begin to tell you what to do, but unless something serious happened to him, I can't understand why he would just drop out of your life. I know you're hurting but if he's not the right guy, it's best you find out sooner than later.

Try to find something to keep you occupied or see friends who can help you get through this time - but you will get through it. Stay strong.

Teddixat · ‎10-04-2010

@Luvsmyfam One more thing, as you may have guessed by now, this is not the best place to come if you're looking for understanding as you can tell from some of the comments.

There is a saying "until you walked a mile in my shoes"

Having said that, try to keep yourself busy and occupied. You will get through this.

Ainhisg · ‎03-09-2010

@Luvsmyfam wrote:
@Lucky Charm HE texted me Last Thurs and told me his plans for the weekend.So when Monday comes and I hear nothing,I just had a awful gut feeling.
Some posters on here have said I am to needy.Unless they know me personally,they have no idea.Yes,I have reached out for opinions,and find most of them very calming,reassuring to me.One thing I am not is needy

@Luvsmyfam first of all, I am so, so sorry! I well remember how it felt to have my hopes up about someone only to have them dashed. I was a divorced single from 38 until I was 46 when I finally met "the one." (I am now 61.) I went out, and was in relationships, with so many losers. I learned to toughen up FAST! And my new favorite word was, "Next!"

One thing I am curious about...when he texted you and told you his plans, did the plans include you at any point? Or did they exclude you?

Two books that really helped me when I was dating as an adult is the one already mentioned: He's Just Not that Into You, and All Men are Jerks Until Proven Otherwise. No one get offended by that last title! LOL It is a tongue-in-cheek title that rings with truth. These books are now older, but based on my single friends' dating lives, their advice is still true, and I have loaned these books to my friends several times.

Guard your heart by telling yourself that whatever a man says, he means it at the time, but that is it. Don't count on it happening! Go about and live your life. If whatever he said does happen, then be pleasantly surprised, but guard your heart until a man PROVES that he's not a "jerk" and will do what he says regularly. It took me a while to learn that one, and finding the two books I mentioned above set me on the road to healthy dating. If a man is interested in you, he will call or text regularly and not stand you up without explanation. If a man quits contacting you, that is exactly what you need to know--that he isn't into you for whatever reason, and if you've guarded your heart, you can shrug your shoulders and say, "Next!"

Do NOT contact him for an explanation! If he ignores you, that's going to hurt even worse, and if he does give you an explanation, who knows if it's the truth or not? And it won't change anything, so ??? He's already told you who he is, and that's all you need to know.

One thing that helps is to get right back in the saddle again. I know my next advice will make many posters clutch their pearls, but you might consider online dating. YES, online dating! There are safe ways to do it, and there are books about how to date online safely and a plethora of YouTube videos on the same subject. Take this time to get a plan in place if you decide you want to try this avenue. Several YouTube videos that I recently watched for a friend even talked about the best dating websites for older women and what to expect. Many books tell how to write your information so as not to give too much information but yet write an appealing ad and give advice concerning good photos.

I met my husband in March of 2008 through Match .com, and from the first date, I could tell that he was into me, but yet he wasn't a stage 5 clinger. (A nod to the movie Wedding Crashers.) We were engaged by Christmas and married the following March. Like all marriages, we've had our ups and downs, but we both say how glad we are that we stayed with it and stayed committed!

Good luck to you!