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manny2 · ‎05-24-2010

@ciao_bella wrote:
@NYCLatinaMe wrote:
@ciao_bella wrote:
@NYCLatinaMe Believe as you wish.

To me, if you're going to choose to reveal a story and want and ask for people's feedback and advice, you have to be transparent and up front with the all details at the beginning. If not, you can't fault people for having doubt and drawing their own conclusions after omitted details were found and revealed later to be true and confirmed by the OP.

Many people here were empathetic to the OP at first not knowing all the details, myself included, but your judgement now of others for not continuing to being kind, supportive, etc., and calling them rude and ignorant, are just as objectionable and judgemental.

If a person wants to be believed they have to be genuine, transparent and truthful of all details. It's as simple as that!

@ciao_bella No poster here owes you anything. You don't have to read any post. You don't have to respond to any post.

When someone is vulnerable, what do you gain from beating them up about inconsistencies, or whatever. They don't owe you anything.
@NYCLatinaMe And neither do I owe you or anyone else anything. You are just as capable of not reading or responding to a post. Have a nice rest of your day!

I guess her point went right over your head @ciao_bella .

When you give advice on this board it is a choice. Nobody owes you anymore than they are willing to share.

ciao_bella · ‎03-13-2010

@manny2 wrote:
@ciao_bella wrote:
@NYCLatinaMe wrote:
@ciao_bella wrote:
@NYCLatinaMe Believe as you wish.

To me, if you're going to choose to reveal a story and want and ask for people's feedback and advice, you have to be transparent and up front with the all details at the beginning. If not, you can't fault people for having doubt and drawing their own conclusions after omitted details were found and revealed later to be true and confirmed by the OP.

Many people here were empathetic to the OP at first not knowing all the details, myself included, but your judgement now of others for not continuing to being kind, supportive, etc., and calling them rude and ignorant, are just as objectionable and judgemental.

If a person wants to be believed they have to be genuine, transparent and truthful of all details. It's as simple as that!

@ciao_bella No poster here owes you anything. You don't have to read any post. You don't have to respond to any post.

When someone is vulnerable, what do you gain from beating them up about inconsistencies, or whatever. They don't owe you anything.
@NYCLatinaMe And neither do I owe you or anyone else anything. You are just as capable of not reading or responding to a post. Have a nice rest of your day!

I guess her point went right over your head @ciao_bella .

When you give advice on this board it is a choice. Nobody owes you anymore than they are willing to share.

@manny2 With all due respect, my point to her has always been that everyone is entitled to their own opinion based on what information is given and/or evolves, whether you agree with the opinion or not. To call all those that disagreed with her (and there were many) ignorant and rude is, at best, not right.

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Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

@Pink123 wrote:
I disagree.... it's in the DNA and always will be. They are hunter's if they want you. If not? so be it. I think my mother taught me well as some things do not change. Be feminine.

Poor women today at 40 still not married and no children. And things are drying up, cant have kids. Quite sad in my opinion, just saying.

@Pink123 I am old, and even to me that is far from the way the world works now. Not every woman wants to be married, not every woman wants a "hunter" for a husband, nor does every couple want or can have kids.

And you know, even those women can have a very "not sad" life.

Pink123 · ‎07-10-2019

@Sooner wrote:
@Pink123 wrote:
I disagree.... it's in the DNA and always will be. They are hunter's if they want you. If not? so be it. I think my mother taught me well as some things do not change. Be feminine.

Poor women today at 40 still not married and no children. And things are drying up, cant have kids. Quite sad in my opinion, just saying.

@Pink123 I am old, and even to me that is far from the way the world works now. Not every woman wants to be married, not every woman wants a "hunter" for a husband, nor does every couple want or can have kids.

And you know, even those women can have a very "not sad" life.

Oh @Sooner. @Sooner - you mistake my words or I wrote them wrong. Hunter is the wrong word. Would pursuit be ok?

And sorry but women aren't getting married today because the men don't want too. They don't have to with so much available on their phones.

I think you would have been quite sad had you not met your husband right? It's nice to have a companion to walk through life with.

They have no choice but to go get invitro or whatever it is to have a child if they want one.

And women I might add are making more more money than alot of men today as well.

Plus it;s different areas of the country that has alot to do with pairing up for life I think.

If you have been married and are widowed that's a different story. One can happily choose to be alone.

Let's watch the stories, lol.

RoughDraft · ‎03-09-2010

@Sooner wrote:
@Pink123 wrote:
I disagree.... it's in the DNA and always will be. They are hunter's if they want you. If not? so be it. I think my mother taught me well as some things do not change. Be feminine.

Poor women today at 40 still not married and no children. And things are drying up, cant have kids. Quite sad in my opinion, just saying.

@Pink123 I am old, and even to me that is far from the way the world works now. Not every woman wants to be married, not every woman wants a "hunter" for a husband, nor does every couple want or can have kids.

And you know, even those women can have a very "not sad" life.

@Sooner So true. And a word of caution for any woman who's looking for a "hunter," be careful who he's hunting for...besides you.

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Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

@Pink123 NO I did not "plan" to get married nor would I have been "sad" if I didn't at a certain age. I would only have married if I really found THE guy that had it all for me. I did plan to work, and be able to support myself, which I have always been even married. I bought our first house to get established credit back in the olden days. Sad wasn't it that women had to establish credit.

I didn't see myself married for sure, didn't see kids for sure, had no goals in that area. I do not believe that men and women think like they did last century. Women can be what they want to be, do what they want, and marriage and children are options for many if not most. Also, marriages to many like me are a partnership, a business, and a shared life as well as a love story. People without common goals usually have issues.

Junebug54 · ‎03-09-2010

I've read a number of her posts and in my opinion she does seem to be needy. Also I never understand someone telling

In my opinion she does appear to be needy. Personally I'm a very private person and will never understand the need to bare all you issues on a message board. Attention seeking = needy.