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@Luvsmyfam wrote:

@EastCoastGal That's just it ,nothing happened over the holiday weekend.I can't figure it out.One thing I know,I deleted his cell number because I don't want to make a fool  of myself. We socialize at the same place,and really don't know what I would say to him.I want to be happy and not sad

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@Luvsmyfam 

You are entitled to an explanation.  When relationships don't work out, it's reasonable to consider what could I, or we,have done differently. 

I would want a short conversation.  He shouldn't run away and ignore you.  JMO, of course.  

[DJP]

If a guy won't at least give you a reason I personally would move on. I know it's hard to do and you should put your energy on yourself, friends and family. Try not to be so hard on yourself. 

[santorini]

I'm sorry you're going through this. I probably wouldn't have deleted his number. Maybe there is a reason for the lack of contact (a wreck or something like that). You can always reject the call but if you leave the line open, he can at least possibly send a text and let you know what happened. 

[sabatini]

[Luvsmyfam]

@Lucky Charm HE texted me Last Thurs and told me his plans for the weekend.So when Monday comes and I hear nothing,I just had a awful gut feeling.

Some posters on here have said I am to needy.Unless they know me personally,they have no idea.Yes,I have reached out for opinions,and find most of them very calming,reassuring to me.One thing I am not is needy

[Luvsmyfam]

@bklynirene I appreciate your respond

[Luvsmyfam]

@rms1954 No,I did not get involved to soon

[spumoni99]

You deserve better, let yourself have a good cry, buy some ice cream and then move on to better things!

[pdlinda]

@Tissyanne   I disagree.  I wouldn't "ambush" him. 

I recall reading a book (they also made a movie) called "He's Not That Into You."  Whatever answers you're seeking will probably be answered by reading that book.

The bottom line is (from what I recall) if he ghosted you after dating for awhile, he may have gone back to his former spouse, met someone new, or reconnected with someone he had a relationship with prior to meeting you.

I distinctly recall that the men interviewed in the book stressed that if he "was into you" and had any other type of problem (work/health/financial/children) he would have confided in you and included you in dealing with it.

Anyhow, the best of luck to you in finding the emotional strength to accept this situation and getting to the point of understanding that his obvious lack of respect for you by being so insensitive showed he has character problems that you're better off not being subjected to any longer.

[GingerHead]

Sorry @Luvsmyfam !

Sounds like good riddance, it's not kind to leave someone hanging like he has and you want a kind man.

Take care and have yourself a good cry but then wipe those tears away because you are a strong, capable woman who deserves good things and kind men (notice I said men/plural...*wink*) in your life!