IVE BEEN MIA - Page 4

bklynirene · ‎12-02-2021

Been there with relationship. Look up Narcissistic Personality Disorder. People who have this disorder use others. They do not care about doing the right thing. When they are finished with you or bored (they have a short attention spans(, you are discarded. They think of other people as objecrs -- like a toaster or blender. If it doesn't work any more, it is thrown out. You would not call or talk to an appliance that is not serving its purpose! Do not pay much attention to other writers here who have placed partial or whole blame on you. People who have NPD do not follow rules; they have no conscience. Again, it is not you! You are ver lucky that it has been a week. Many people spend years wondering what they did wrong and never realize the problem is with the other person. Best of luck.

rms1954 · ‎06-06-2019

Sounds like you may have scared him off. You sound as if you get involved too quick, too much, and too soon.

qbetzforreal · ‎08-28-2010

As a few posters have stated maybe he has been busy this past week and that is the reason he hasn't contacted you.

I would have not deleted his number. I don't think a week is long time to consider being ghosted. Also, other things play into ghosting: not returning phone calls, not responding to text messages and blocking a person.

Don't be sad. Dating can be difficult. If you see him, and you wanted to go out, ask him. If he declines, then you'll know it wasn't a relationship.

Lucky Charm · ‎03-09-2010

Who was the last person to contact who? (I'm sure there's a whom in there somewhere.). If he hasn't responded to your last contact, I wouldn't say he was a narcissist. What was the conversation either in person or via message the very last time?

Happy2BHere · ‎10-22-2019

Oh I'm sorry you're going through this.

My advice is to give yourself a little time to grieve what you thought was something good, and then resolve to realize he's the one who dropped it. Apparently it was not enough, at least to him.

I know your heart hurts, and I hate to ask this, but are you sure he didn't meet someone else and spend the holiday with them? If that's what happened, I hope she breaks his heart!

I remember reading a quote once that said something like when a man wants you nothing will keep him away from you, but if he doesn't nothing will keep him with you. You need to think about that and harden your heart toward him. I know that's easier said than done, but tell yourself that you really don't want someone who would treat you the way he has. I'd be afraid that pattern would happen over and over, and you don't need the heartbreak. If he's led you on then he's shown his true character, and you should believe his actions.

Tell yourself you deserve a partner who is there for you, and who will not walk away. And one last thing - keep in mind that it might be that the universe is taking over and is telling you that he is NOT your dream man. It could be Mr. Wonderful is right around the corner and you will be ready and available for him!

If he shows back up, I hope you don't let him do a "drive by" and hurt you again. Please have an adult conversation with him - if he's able to express his true feelings - about what expectations you both have in this.

LizzieInSRQ · ‎12-27-2010

@Love my grandkids wrote:
@San Antonio Gal A little bit of that isn't a bad thing. When late DH and I were dating he was getting a wee bit possessive (nothing bad) so I wasn't available a couple of times and he came around. That's what I call a little hard to get. No big deal. We had a wonderful and happy relationship.

If one is truly busy, of course nothing wrong with that. Playing games and lying may backfire, esecially in a faster paced world these days.

mspatmac · ‎06-10-2015

@Luvsmyfam

I wouldn't presume to speculate on what happened. Please remind yourself a real man doesn't treat people with such disregardedd. I am sorry so cry it out as much as you want to till you realize you are worth so much more.

LizzieInSRQ · ‎12-27-2010

Lets start listing other reasons other tban rejevtion why he is MIA:

Is he a good bill payer? Perhaps his cell phone got shut off due to non-payment. 😁
Did he get in an accident? Do you have mutual friends who would know and contact you to tell you?
Was he sober? Perhaps fell off the wagon

How often did he communicate with you prior to this. How did each of you spend the holiday weekend? If i recall correctly you work 3 jobs, maybe you declined seeing him one too many times for him?

Goodie2shoes · ‎04-30-2012

@ Luvsmyfam so sorry you are going through hurt right now. I briefly looked over the responses you received and I'm sure you appreciate the opinions. Give yourself time,( I know that's easy for me to say) maybe it's for the best, sometimes we go through things in preparation for something even better. Take care !

SportyShorty07 · ‎04-15-2014

@Luvsmyfam I am sorry about this recent development. Ghosting is an inconsiderate thing for a guy to do, and it leaves the woman confused and wondering why things stopped. I was ghosted I think 2 times in dating and those ghosting guys did me a favor, because they showed me early on that they were conflict avoidant and wimpy when it came to saying goodbye (bad traits in my book). I like bold and assertive men and a guy who ghosts isn't a guy I'd ultimately want. Dating is a brave and vulnerable thing to do, and I think that love is out there and good men are out there. Cry it out, do self care, and do something fun in your city or town next week. .

You are a lovely lady and a great catch and I say hold your head up high and if you run into this guy, either do a quick smile or walk on by! Onward and upward, Luvsmyfam!