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[Luvsmyfam]

@spumoni99 I know he's still around because I've seen his truck.The last time we texted he had a busy memorial weekend,thought I would at least hear something.Last date was very nice.I truley haven't felt this down since my divorce 11 yrs ago. I know,my problem is nothing compared to all the hatefulness in this world

[Luvsmyfam]

@Love my grandkids Thank u for responding.I appreciate it

[Luvsmyfam]

@EastCoastGal That's just it ,nothing happened over the holiday weekend.I can't figure it out.One thing I know,I deleted his cell number because I don't want to make a fool  of myself. We socialize at the same place,and really don't know what I would say to him.I want to be happy and not sad

[MoJoV]

@Luvsmyfam  Just remind yourself you deserve better.  Any guy who would just disappear like that isn't worth your time, he's a loser.  You don't deserve that kind of treatment.  Demand respect.

[SilleeMee]

It's okay to feel sad about it but keep reminding yourself that it's only temporary. It will soon pass and then you'll be back to normal.

[San Antonio Gal]

@Luvsmyfam  - I was wondering what happened to you!  

Can you call him and have a heart to heart talk with him?  

[paixmcdao]

Do people really "play hard to get" in in 2024? People in healthy relationships communicate, and don't play silly games. 

[Citrine1]

Wasn't memorial day just last week?  Who's to say that he's not just taking a little break?  Maybe he's busy.  Maybe he'll be in touch with you again.  What makes you think the relationship is "over"?

[EastCoastGal]

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@Luvsmyfam wrote:

@EastCoastGal That's just it ,nothing happened over the holiday weekend.I can't figure it out.One thing I know,I deleted his cell number because I don't want to make a fool  of myself. We socialize at the same place,and really don't know what I would say to him.I want to be happy and not sad

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@Luvsmyfam ... So nothing happened over the holiday weekend. Did the last date end well? It probably did and that's probably why you're confused. The last thing I read from you, you said he wanted to take you to meet his family but you didn't go because you had a headache. Sounds like you had a few dates since then. 

That's hard you socialize at the same place...so you've probably seen him. That must be hard to see him there though. You and I are a lot alike. When l used to date someone and they didn't call again it would really bother me and l would end up crying. 😢 When guys end it like that it isn't fair because if l thought it was going somewhere and it just ended l would want to know why but most guys are like what you're going through. They just end it !! It's not fair to you. 

[LizzieInSRQ]

@Luvsmyfam you literally have chemicals in your system that are caused when we bond to someone. Its like a withdrawl of sorts. Its sad and difficult as we like what a relationship brings. I dont know what happened but im sorry you are going through this. It will take time for these chemicals to dissapate..

One advice i dont agree with is to next time play games, hard to get etc. You be you. Games are just that. I believe people have a right to say yes, sure, why not...if they feel that way. 

The only "rules"  ill never break again is saying I love you first and pursuing a man. I believe there are primal things in place in us as humans. Men like to pursue. Its weird in modern times to say that but i really do believe its primal.

Cry as much as you need to. Its a gift to women to be able to do so easily. Makes being stonger the next day!!!