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[AngelPuppy1]

@haddon9 

I would say that since she has done this at least twice after you asked for a referral, that I would simply not ask her for any more referrals.  Ask another friend or family member instead.  This way, she will not know that you are going to a new doctor and you will not have to deal with her somewhat intrusive behavior.  

[CalminHeart]

Good grief. Let it go.  

While you weren't obligated to call her right away, you could have responded better too.

[skatting44]

  Am amazed how many share  health problems on these boards. 

 As far as your friend,  you can limit your response to simply,  thank you for the referral and  I appreciate  that it worked out .

Next time, ask your primary care or another friend for a referral.

[haddon9]

@skatting44  I didn't ask for a referral from her. She saw that I had an issue with my foot since I was limping and insisted that I try her doctor. 

In the future I plan on thanking her for her suggestion and getting referrals from other sources.

[Shanus]

@haddon9   Well, although she seems "clingy" to me, she's also a concerned friend w/ new doc information when you ask.

Maybe you just need to let her know that you appreciate all her great recommendations, but didn't know she expected a report back and have never had a friend who expected one.

If she's a good friend that you want to keep, find another to ask about docs so the situation doesn't get tangled and confused.

[haddon9]

@Shanus I did send a text letting her know that I appreciate her concern and help. I did say that I didn't realize that I was supposed to report back but that was the wrong thing to say and it made her angry.....I texted back and apologized this morning for upsetting her yesterday.

I mentioned that I need time to unwind when I get home from a doctor's visit.

In the future I'm going to limit talking about health issues with her.

[Shanus]

@haddon9   That's the way I'd handle it, too. BTW, how's your foot?

[haddon9]

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@Shanus wrote:

@haddon9   That's the way I'd handle it, too. BTW, how's your foot?

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@Shanus  Slowly getting better...thanks!

[occasionalrain]

We know our friends as you know this one.

How hard would it have been to send her a quick text telling her that the doctor was great, thank her for her recommendation and  that  you'll talk later when you have more time? 

[haddon9]

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@occasionalrain wrote:

We know our friends as you know this one.

How hard would it have been to send her a quick text telling her that the doctor was great, thank her for her recommendation and  that  you'll talk later when you have more time? 

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@occasionalrain Good point.  Thank you.