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I thank all of you kind ladies for the kind words.  I will walk down the aisle with dignity and a BIG smile because my grandson and his bride love me.  I am blessed to have 4 wonderful grandchildren who love their GG Smiley Mad

 

My grandson also asked if I would dance with him.  he has lived with me since college ( 3years)  to save money and pay off student loans.  When he moves out I will shed tears, but I am thrilled that he has such a warm and sweet bride.   My granddaughter, wile she was student teaching also lived with me.   I have always been close to my sweet grandchildren; because I was a teacher I would watch them every summer so their parents saved on child care costs. We kept this tradition all the way through high school; my late husband and I took them on our vacations, etc. Those memories are so very special to me.  Yes, I am also close to my two children, my daughter is my best friend.  

I may be 69, but I am young at heart . 

 

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The title means nothing, it is an honor to be asked to walk down the aisle at a grandchilds wedding

 


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Sorry but I would never do this. I hate that they refer to a 69 year old grandma as a flower girl. I would have thanked my grandson profusely but kindly bowed out. Grandma could be escorted down the isle with more dignity than using the term flower girl. 


 

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I would be very uncomfortable with the "flower girl" title.  SUrely there is some other designation that could be used for that role.  

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Re: GRANDMA AS FLOWER GIRL

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My guess is: flower girl just denotes the position where she will be in the bridal procession. 

 

Takes me back to the old joke of "I don't care what you call me, just call me in time to eat." 

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@Calcgirl wrote:

I thank all of you kind ladies for the kind words.  I will walk down the aisle with dignity and a BIG smile because my grandson and his bride love me.  I am blessed to have 4 wonderful grandchildren who love their GG Smiley Mad

 

My grandson also asked if I would dance with him.  he has lived with me since college ( 3years)  to save money and pay off student loans.  When he moves out I will shed tears, but I am thrilled that he has such a warm and sweet bride.   My granddaughter, wile she was student teaching also lived with me.   I have always been close to my sweet grandchildren; because I was a teacher I would watch them every summer so their parents saved on child care costs. We kept this tradition all the way through high school; my late husband and I took them on our vacations, etc. Those memories are so very special to me.  Yes, I am also close to my two children, my daughter is my best friend.  

I may be 69, but I am young at heart . 

 


You are blessed and the only important "Title" is the one you have already Grandmother.   I am so thrilled for you.

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I'm Jewish as well and it's common for the grandmother to walk down the aisle assisted by a groomsman or if she's able, to walk alone.  No 'position' name, it's just a tradition.  That's why I was surprised that the OPs grands felt the need to make a designated position for her,  


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People won't laugh.  I think they'll see it as a very nice thing.  In Jewish weddings both parents escort the bride down the aisle, not just the father. Ask what they mean by being "flower girl".  Are you going to be holding a basket of flowers or will you just be carrying a small bouquet?

 

However I understand your hesitation.  There are things in life that sometimes make us uncomfortable and we just don't want to do it.  By the time we become a bit older you would think that we've gotten past some insecurities but unfortunately some things never leave us.  Sometimes we also feel that once you reach a certain age we shouldn't have to do things that makes us feel that way....Knowing me I would ask why this means so much to them... but I would probably do it.  

 

As for what to wear, see if you can find out what the mother of the bride & groom are wearing then find something appropriate that makes you comfortable and won't clash with their outfits.


 

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Enjoy being a part of your grandson's special day.

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Please do not pass up this opportunity to be part of the wedding party. I read the posts from mothers and grandmothers who are excluded from milestone events or are estranged from family and rejoice in your loving relationship.

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This is the opposite. For years my husband said "I want you to wear a red dress to my funeral" and I would always say " sure, no problem. He also told my family "she has to wear a red dress and I would always say "sure no problem" He died a few days ago and my family asked if I had my red dress. Of course i asked if i have to do this, and everyone said you made a promise. My son said the same thing.

 

Now the guys are all wearing red ties including my husband. and the funeral director asked if I would like the staff to also wear a red tie and the ladies would have some kind of red accessory.  Of course i said yes. The flowers will be red and white.

 

I have come to terms with wearing the red dress. I have never seen this before but I keep saying "if only I didnt say yes" lol.

 

Do what your heart tells you and have a fantastic time.

 

 

 

 

 

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I think it's just great, and am thrilled you have decided to do this. One of my girls remained single until the age of 58, three years ago. She and her hubby had a very large church wedding. Her flower girls were 2 young women she had taught while they were in high school. People thought it was terrific and laughed in good humor and enjoyment. Her "ring bearer" was a fully grown former student from Jamaica. He nearly ran down the aisle and presented the pillow with a bow and a flourish and it was the most fun you can imagine. The ceremony itself was Christ-centered and sacred, but everything else was fun, fun, fun. I am a widow, so my 2 grandsons walked me down the aisle and I was the one to answer the question "who gives this woman to be married to this man?" My answer was, "her family and I do."

My wedding dress (married in 1952) was not fit to be worn, but my sister found enough of it to make a gorgeous ring bearer pillow with pearls. My grandson and his now wife also used it in their wedding, just as a sentiment and to honor me. It's those personal family touches that make a wedding special.

I guess all of you are much younger than I am, but I can tell you that "matron of honor" had nothing to do with age. It meant that the woman was married. "Maid of honor" signified that she was single. Those titles don't really matter these days, as far as I can see. A wedding should be what the bride and groom want. If they want to include family members, it means to me that there is a lot of love there and that's wonderful at any age.

God bless the young couple and all who love them.

 

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