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My grandson is getting married and in many ways I have been like a mother to him.  He and his Fiance' have asked me to be their "flower girl".  I really don't want to do it but said yes because it meant so much to them. This was a few months ago, and as the day nears, I am getting cold feet.  I am a well taken care of 69 year old widow, but won't people laugh? Or should i not care as long as it means something to them?  What in the world do I wear????  The wedding is in the early part of November in Az and is a formal affair with the wedding itself in late afternoon. 

 

 

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Please do this for them.  My 85 year old mother never experienced going to the prom when she was young, so she attended the prom with my daughter.   No one laughed.  Two of the nice boys asked her to dance.   It was an event of a lifetime that she remembered until she died at 93.   You will be beautiful and find something appropriate to wear that makes you feel that way.   You may set a new trend.  Embrace the love.

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Oh my goodness this is the best ....you should be honored ...walk down

that aisle with pride that they thought enough of you to ask you ... I

think its precious and I bet everyone else will too ....yes in fact this

may start a new trend ... I like it !!!  You must be very special to them ......

 

All the best .....

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Re: GRANDMA AS FLOWER GIRL

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People won't laugh.  I think they'll see it as a very nice thing.  In Jewish weddings both parents escort the bride down the aisle, not just the father. Ask what they mean by being "flower girl".  Are you going to be holding a basket of flowers or will you just be carrying a small bouquet?

 

However I understand your hesitation.  There are things in life that sometimes make us uncomfortable and we just don't want to do it.  By the time we become a bit older you would think that we've gotten past some insecurities but unfortunately some things never leave us.  Sometimes we also feel that once you reach a certain age we shouldn't have to do things that makes us feel that way....Knowing me I would ask why this means so much to them... but I would probably do it.  

 

As for what to wear, see if you can find out what the mother of the bride & groom are wearing then find something appropriate that makes you comfortable and won't clash with their outfits.

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@nana lu wrote:

Please do this for them.  My 85 year old mother never experienced going to the prom when she was young, so she attended the prom with my daughter.   No one laughed.  Two of the nice boys asked her to dance.   It was an event of a lifetime that she remembered until she died at 93.   You will be beautiful and find something appropriate to wear that makes you feel that way.   You may set a new trend.  Embrace the love.


Prom?  I would laugh say to my grandaughter if you want to spend time with grandma then let's do a nice lunch & some shopping together and I would save the prom for the kids!

 

I never went to my prom either....but back in 1972 proms just weren't big...at least where I went to school which was a large suburban high school in New Jersey.  Out of a class of over 700 only 100 attended the prom. It seemed to be a dying thing at the time.

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I don't think people will laugh........I bet you see tears instead .....

 

Do it....

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I would walk down that aisle with pride! What a special honor, IMO!Heart

 

I bet the attendees will think it's special too, not laugh!

 

Check with the bride & groom as to what you should wear. They may want you to wear the same color scheme as the bridesmaids, etc.

 

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Re: GRANDMA AS FLOWER GIRL

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How wonderful for you, keep in mind, they'll be waiting to see the bride.  But to be included in something this wonderful! They must think so much of you, and that's what I'd care about, not the others.  Ask the bride to be what she has in mind for you to wear. Maybe she can even take a couple of hours and help you shop. Just get your dominos in a row and enjoy that day.  In a time, when grandparents are an afterthought, you get a great way to create memories for them. They are pretty special too, to honor you that way. Do it if you can, it'll be wonderful for all!!!! 

 

I think the term: Flower Girl, just denotes where in the bridal procession she would be.

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I'm a 70 year old grandmother, also very close to my grandson. He's 22 and has had a serious girlfriend for over two years. If and when they marry, I'd be thrilled to be part of the wedding party in any role, including flower girl. The guests will be thrilled with the kind gesture on the newlyweds' part and on your part. If there's a color scheme and the bride wants you to wear a certain color dress, that's all you need to know. I just know you will be glad you agreed to be flower girl. Have a wonderful time! It's my fondest wish to be at my grandchildren's weddings.

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Oh, please Do IT!  This is Your Grandson getting Married here. Family history in the making and he wants you to be a part of it. Own the honor as you walk down the aisle leading your family to such an important event in ther lives.  I agree with the other poster that you should find out what you should wear and carry. Discuss it beforehand.  I, myself, think that sprinkling petals like a sprite may not be the thing to do.  Maybe carry some dried flowers that you can transform into some other display to give them on their first annervirsary?  I don't know what faith they are but perhaps you could carry a Rosary with the boquet and give them that as a rememberance of the day.  Be a part of it all!