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Dear Sage04, please accept my sincere sympathies in the loss of your hubby. It's so fresh and the grief is hard, I know. I think wearing the red is a very loving and tender thing to do and am so happy everyone has agreed to participate. It's the color of love. And love is strong as death. All of your life seeing that color will bring a smile to you whether inside or on your face. It is making me smile even through some tears. I can tell you are surrounded by a loving and caring family and know they will be of inestimable value to you in the days that lie ahead. My hubby went Home on October 17,,2010 after suffering for years with heart disease, Parkinsons and cancer.

 

Be good to yourself. Rest, eat right, do what makes you happy and take things one day at a time. It's all we have.

 

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@I am still oxox wrote:

The title means nothing, it is an honor to be asked to walk down the aisle at a grandchilds wedding

 


@ID2 wrote:

Sorry but I would never do this. I hate that they refer to a 69 year old grandma as a flower girl. I would have thanked my grandson profusely but kindly bowed out. Grandma could be escorted down the isle with more dignity than using the term flower girl. 


 Oh, they don't refer to me as the "Flower Girl", but as Flower GG. Smiley Happy.  In fact they made a puzzle and boxed it beautifully asking me to be this special person in their wedding. My grandson also requested I dance with him when his bride dances with her Father.  He is not close to his mom, she left them for another man when he was 16 and this broke his heart.  Although he sees her once in awhile and she will be at the wedding they are not close.  I recommended he dance with his mom or stepmom by the way. He said his first choice was me, lol. Love that man!


 

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@Sage04 wrote:

This is the opposite. For years my husband said "I want you to wear a red dress to my funeral" and I would always say " sure, no problem. He also told my family "she has to wear a red dress and I would always say "sure no problem" He died a few days ago and my family asked if I had my red dress. Of course i asked if i have to do this, and everyone said you made a promise. My son said the same thing.

 

Now the guys are all wearing red ties including my husband. and the funeral director asked if I would like the staff to also wear a red tie and the ladies would have some kind of red accessory.  Of course i said yes. The flowers will be red and white.

 

I have come to terms with wearing the red dress. I have never seen this before but I keep saying "if only I didnt say yes" lol.

 

Do what your heart tells you and have a fantastic time.

 

 

 I am so sorry for your loss, my soulmate went to heaven 6 years ago. God Bless You.

 

 


 

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@Calcgirl

My son is getting married in November. They talked about having "flower Grandma's" toss flower petals down the aisle. I had never heard of this but now realize it is a trend that is gaining popularity. Of course my Mom wants nothing to do with it, which disappoints me. I'm not sure if my future daughter in law's Grandma will participate or not. I think it's wonderful that you accepted their offer.

 

Please don't get cold feet- this is a lovely way for you to participate in their special day. Wear whatever you would wear to their wedding. After it's over I'm sure you will be glad you participated. Enjoy yourself!

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@Calcgirl

 

How wonderful & blessed you are to have not only a special bond with your loving grandson BUT his future wife!  

 

Really doesn't matter what you're called - perhaps it's the spot in the procession -- either way enjoy the ❤️ around you that special day!

 

My niece (godchild I'm very close with) & her husband made me a very special part of their wedding day and it's a memory I'll  always cherish!! I'll never forget the special request box that came in the mail - so cute & clever.  I didn't think twice about saying YES!!!

 

kudos to a loving grandson & fiancé!!!

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@snappyfrappy, Thank you so much. I told my family what you posted about the family and they asked if you knew me. They said you hit the nail right on the head lol.I really appreciate it. Every few minutes someone would ask if I ate.

 

Sorry for your loss also.

 

@CalcgirlThank you also. May God continue to Bless you.

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@Vivian Florimond wrote:

I'm a 70 year old grandmother, also very close to my grandson. He's 22 and has had a serious girlfriend for over two years. If and when they marry, I'd be thrilled to be part of the wedding party in any role, including flower girl. The guests will be thrilled with the kind gesture on the newlyweds' part and on your part. If there's a color scheme and the bride wants you to wear a certain color dress, that's all you need to know. I just know you will be glad you agreed to be flower girl. Have a wonderful time! It's my fondest wish to be at my grandchildren's weddings.


 

@Vivianyour last sentence made me cry. It's my fondest wish as well. I remember my mother saying to my daughter that she prayed she'd be here to attend her wedding. And she was, looking happy and gorgeous as always. Now I pray for the same thing, to enjoy my granddaughter's wedding. Thanks for the tears; I hope your wish comes true!

 

 

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@Calcgirl wrote:

My grandson is getting married and in many ways I have been like a mother to him.  He and his Fiance' have asked me to be their "flower girl".  I really don't want to do it but said yes because it meant so much to them. This was a few months ago, and as the day nears, I am getting cold feet.  I am a well taken care of 69 year old widow, but won't people laugh? Or should i not care as long as it means something to them?  What in the world do I wear????  The wedding is in the early part of November in Az and is a formal affair with the wedding itself in late afternoon. 

 

 


@Calcgirl- Oh please do it! Whether it's a true flower girl, an attendant, or whatever you want to call it, it is an honor to be asked!

 

Do you realize that you'll be making memories for your grandson that will stay with him for the rest of his life?

 

You got some excellent advice here. Go and enjoy every moment!

 

 

"That's a great first pancake."
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calgirl, I am so thrilled for you.  It doesn't matter what they call it, what matters is they love and respect you.  Walk down that aisle with all the pride and love you feel and you will see smiles and tears all around you.  How wonderful that a grandmother gets a special place in her grandson's wedding.  What a loving family you have, God Bless all of you. Heart Heart


@Calcgirl wrote:

My grandson is getting married and in many ways I have been like a mother to him.  He and his Fiance' have asked me to be their "flower girl".  I really don't want to do it but said yes because it meant so much to them. This was a few months ago, and as the day nears, I am getting cold feet.  I am a well taken care of 69 year old widow, but won't people laugh? Or should i not care as long as it means something to them?  What in the world do I wear????  The wedding is in the early part of November in Az and is a formal affair with the wedding itself in late afternoon. 

 

 


 

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@Calcgirl.  The bride should have had you select a dress.  You need to ask your grandson or his finance what they want you to wear and tell them you will be the flower lady not girl.  lol

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