Wellness

[NicksmomESQ]

  I don’t answer personal questions, period!! It’s not like you had a certain condition & they were trying to figure out how you got it!! 

  You had every right not to respond.Good for you for standing your ground!!

[Moonchilde]

The questions could pertain to your likelihood of having or getting a STD. Certain sexual acts increase the likelihood that you would be exposed to STD or some hepatitis.

For me, the specifically-worded questions would matter. I can see ways it might be asked that I would be kind of taken aback by it, and other ways/wording where I wouldn’t bat an eyelash at a question. Some might find the way the questions are asked clumsy-intrusive; another office might have the same question but ask it differently.

Alternatively, it sounds like the office doing a survey/research for an outside business or agency and gathering statistics - which I would not like and would not respond to.

I would have discussed it with the doctor or the office staff if it really bothered me. I might have said “I don’t see how these questions pertain to my medical care. If you want to know if I engage in risky sexual behavior or behavior frequently associated with STDs I’ll tell you no - but you should be asking it that way.”  

Also, some people are clueless enough that they don’t know the term STD, don’t understand what STD is or why the doctor would want to know. They were probably trying to question in such a way that a clueless person would still give an accurate answer.

[Moonchilde]

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@Carmie wrote:

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@I am still oxox wrote:

They sound like lifestyle questions, I would of answered them with out the bat of an eyelash

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Yes, you’re right.  They were lifestyle questions now that you mentioned it.  Why do you think they want to know?

 They didn’t ask if I practiced any of this, just wanted to know if i was interested.  Do you think they wanted women to audition for something? I can’t figure it out.

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They may be collecting statistics for a study - which they should disclose up front. 

I would be upset with these questions if it WASN’T an OB-GYN, but it being an OB-GYN they are more relevant than if a PCP asked them, definitely.

[Laura14]

@Carmie  I am still trying to close my mouth!    

NONE of their business.  Attraction has nothing to do with actual behavior which means it has zero to do with your health and I just, I just can't even continue with my answer I am so horrified.  Good for you for saying no thank you!   

Now I probably would have made up an entire menagerie in my bed every night complete with multiple partners and species just to see if their "system" would accept my answers. But that's me.   

[BalletBabe]

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@Carmie wrote:

About two weeks ago, I went for a routine GYN exam.  That last exam I had was 10 years ago and I needed to go to a new doctor because my doctor retired

Before the examination date, I was sent a medical form to fill out and bring to my appointment.

The form had the normal routine questions about my medical history, pregnancy and childbirth, etc, but there were a few very personal questions that I did not want to answer so I didn’t and left them blank.  I don’t think the questions or my answers had anything to do with my care and were private.

My exam went well and there were no problems.  I was given a clean bill of health. The doctor was professional.

Well today, I received a call from someone in the office.  She said she needed more information from me for their “system.”   I asked her what she needed and she wanted the answers to the questions I left blank on the form.  I told her “ No”   I think she was surprised and asked me why I was not being cooperative.  I asked her why she needed the answers.  She said for our “ system.”

So, I told her that I wasn’t interested in their system and only would answer questions pertaining to my health.  She was pushy, but I didn’t’ give in.  I told her that I had a right to privacy and I wanted to exercise that right.  She finally gave up and ended the call.

Now, I am 63 years old and have been married for almost 45 years.  The questions that I refused to answer had to do with what gender I was attracted to and if I was ever interested in trying ? and ? which would have to include others joining us in our bedroom.

The form did not ask if I participated in risky behavior, which would have been a question needed for medical care.  It asked if I was interested in alternative relationships and certain practices that are considered kinky, but normal for some adventurous people.

Would you have answered the questions? Have you even seen these types of questions on a standard form for a GYN visit? 

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I agree with you 100%.  That is none of their business.   Just wait till you hit 65 and are on Medicare.   They have done nothing, but drive me nuts. My Dr. was acting all goofy when I told him I was going to be on Medicare in April.  He said oh "Then you will need a welcome to Medicare visit".   I just was given a clean bill of health, full blood work and all.   He said they will ask you a few pages of questions and most of your answers will be no.  I thought, if you know my answers , why do I need to do this?   Turns out they grade the Dr. for doing these.   Then they started calling me for health assesments.  I told them if they keep calling me or filling up my mailbox with garbage , I will go after them for harassment.   I get no calls anymore.   I also only get emails.   The Government is way to far into our healthcare. You are your own boss with your healthcare.   If it feels wrong , then don't do it.  

I also found out that these Dr.'s are getting paid well for these Welcome to Medicare visits and a lot of their questions are out of line. I am glad that I did the research because they are really gettiing nosey.      

[Peaches McPhee]

Good for you for refusing to answer. 

A good "system" will allow an answer of "refused to answer" in the choices.  

[QueenDanceALot]

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@Laura14 wrote:

@Carmie  I am still trying to close my mouth!    

NONE of their business.  Attraction has nothing to do with actual behavior which means it has zero to do with your health and I just, I just can't even continue with my answer I am so horrified.  Good for you for saying no thank you!   

Now I probably would have made up an entire menagerie in my bed every night complete with multiple partners and species just to see if their "system" would accept my answers. But that's me.   

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@Laura14@Carmie

You could even ask the office for extra paper as the form doesn't have enough room to list all the scenarios.

[BalletBabe]

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@Peaches McPhee wrote:

Good for you for refusing to answer. 

A good "system" will allow an answer of "refused to answer" in the choices.  

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HOW ABOUT NOT APPLICABLE       LOLOL

[Laura14]

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@QueenDanceALot wrote:

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@Laura14 wrote:

@Carmie  I am still trying to close my mouth!    

NONE of their business.  Attraction has nothing to do with actual behavior which means it has zero to do with your health and I just, I just can't even continue with my answer I am so horrified.  Good for you for saying no thank you!   

Now I probably would have made up an entire menagerie in my bed every night complete with multiple partners and species just to see if their "system" would accept my answers. But that's me.   

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@Laura14@Carmie

You could even ask the office for extra paper as the form doesn't have enough room to list all the scenarios.

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@QueenDanceALot  LOVE THAT!  I am going to find the biggest black book I can and drop it on the front desk and ask, "Where should we start?  I have it indexed by name, stars, and other body parts."  

[BalletBabe]

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@Carmie wrote:

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@IMW wrote:

I would not answer those questions, I try not to give even my ss#.

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I only give out my last four numbers when asked for a SS number. xxx-xx-1234.  I 

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I did billing in a Dr's office and we needed the SS# to file a claim.  Unless your paying cash, how would they file your claims? We also copied the Drivers License and I know a lot of people did not like that.