Medical information vs. privacy

Carmie · ‎10-25-2010

About two weeks ago, I went for a routine GYN exam. That last exam I had was 10 years ago and I needed to go to a new doctor because my doctor retired

Before the examination date, I was sent a medical form to fill out and bring to my appointment.

The form had the normal routine questions about my medical history, pregnancy and childbirth, etc, but there were a few very personal questions that I did not want to answer so I didn’t and left them blank. I don’t think the questions or my answers had anything to do with my care and were private.

My exam went well and there were no problems. I was given a clean bill of health. The doctor was professional.

Well today, I received a call from someone in the office. She said she needed more information from me for their “system.” I asked her what she needed and she wanted the answers to the questions I left blank on the form. I told her “ No” I think she was surprised and asked me why I was not being cooperative. I asked her why she needed the answers. She said for our “ system.”

So, I told her that I wasn’t interested in their system and only would answer questions pertaining to my health. She was pushy, but I didn’t’ give in. I told her that I had a right to privacy and I wanted to exercise that right. She finally gave up and ended the call.

Now, I am 63 years old and have been married for almost 45 years. The questions that I refused to answer had to do with what gender I was attracted to and if I was ever interested in trying ? and ? which would have to include others joining us in our bedroom.

The form did not ask if I participated in risky behavior, which would have been a question needed for medical care. It asked if I was interested in alternative relationships and certain practices that are considered kinky, but normal for some adventurous people.

Would you have answered the questions? Have you even seen these types of questions on a standard form for a GYN visit?

NycVixen · ‎10-15-2010

I would never answer that. I'm also not into giving more information than necessary. Those questions sound like prying and if it's being collected for reasons that aren't medical in nature.

~Live with Intention~

Meowingkitty · ‎06-19-2010

I’m with you. Those questions are none of their business. Those don’t pertain to your health. I’ve left questions unanswered and no doctor has ever demanded and answer.

RespectLife · ‎02-27-2012

Oh my gosh @Carmie

Those are the most inappropriate questions I have ever heard of! I can't believe they followed up with a phone call to get that info!

I would have refused as well.

Bri36 · ‎02-20-2017

I wouldn't have answered those questions either.

I have no problem not answering certain questions. If someone refuses their care for me, I will find someone else.

ALRATIBA · ‎07-15-2016

@Carmie... weird questions!

I went to a new doctor last week ... went through the usual questions on smoking, drinking, allergies, drug reactions ... (things that would impact my health) .... that was it.

NO WAY I'd have answered the questions they asked you ... and would start looking around for another doctor.

I am still oxox · ‎03-09-2010

They sound like lifestyle questions, I would of answered them with out the bat of an eyelash

Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being positive what could go right.

Carmie · ‎10-25-2010

@I am still oxox wrote:
They sound like lifestyle questions, I would of answered them with out the bat of an eyelash

Yes, you’re right. They were lifestyle questions now that you mentioned it. Why do you think they want to know?

They didn’t ask if I practiced any of this, just wanted to know if i was interested. Do you think they wanted women to audition for something? I can’t figure it out.