Wellness

[mizree]

@kismet prayers for peace and strength to you and your family.  prayers for complete recovery for your husband.  take good care of yourself.

[Jersey Born]

@kismet - I am praying for your husband's full recovery. That he is able to respond with a monosyllable to a command from his doctor is a positive sign that he has the ability to understand what is being said to him. He may currently lack the ability to generate his own personal thoughts, or perhaps his thoughts are too complex for him to find the right words to express what he is thinking. Or, it may just be very hard for him due to possible apraxia to use his mouth muscles for the motor planning necessary to talk in full sentences. Only with time will anyone be able to ascertain what has happened and what his deficits might be in the short term. The long term is impossible to ascertain without the passage of time to gauge his recovery. 

This is going to be a very stressful time for you and your other family members, for sure. For your husband, it will be an even more stressful, confusing, and depressing time. Stroke survivors are known to suffer from depression, so he is going to need a lot of encouragement in the days ahead. He is going to want answers regarding his recovery timeframe even more urgently that you, and those answers will become apparent only with the passage of time and a lot of hard work with different therapy modalities.  I am praying for your strength, too, at this time. 

[kismet]

Taking the day off and staying home.  I've been running all week and it is affecting me.  The pets are reacting to my husband not being home.  He walked the dog every day.  Today my bird is listless.  I'll be fine cause I always am.  I thank God that I was raised to be strong.  I was given a lot of information at the hospital about what I can do if things don't get better.  My daughter and I agree on things.  The grandkids haven't asked to see him and we're glad about that.  If only he had taken care of his heart things would have been different.  Please tell your loved ones to seek medical attention when necessary.  

[kismet]

@Jersey Born  thanks for the information.  I was told it will be along road but for now they don't know how much he will be able to do.  They said they check him for certain things during the day and how he responds gives them an idea for the future.  It's hard to see him like that but hopefully he will get better. I wonder if he would work hard to get there.  He may give up.    

[phoenixbrd]

@kismet   Yes, you are a strong woman.  I respect your attitude and wonder about your statement "please tell your loved ones to seek medical attention when necessary".  Are you saying that they were indications that might have indicated heart problems?  You mentioned he had seen a cardiologist and didn't follow up.  I asked because I'm wondering what symptoms would appear if there were heart problems.

Continuing prayers for you and your family.  Hoping you are taking good care of yourself during this challenging time. 

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[kismet]

phoenixbrd, because I have no immediate family near me I've had to get through everything with my daughter and grandkids.  My husband helped but when I think about it I've always been the one making decisions.  Yes, he did see a cardiologist about 6 months before the pandemic.  A lot of tests done and he didn't go back.  Never told me what the doctor said.  The office called but he never went back in.  Now we're all thinking if he went back he probably would of had a pacmaker put in.  He's not a doctor person and he had the best cardiologist in the city.  You can't make a person go if they chose not to.  He had a hard time breathing but thought it was from his lungs, years of smoking, and the heart problem which no one knew about.  Our GP told him every year to go back to the cardiologist and he didn't.  He changed after seeing the doctor in 2019.  Didn't seem to care about much.  Didn't have much energy.  He use to look for things to do around the house but that all changed.  

I got a call from the doctor early Friday and they said his breathing wasn't very good and asked me about other decisions.  I did put a DNR in the computer Wed.  He was worse Thursday and Friday.  I can't even say what I saw.  I said I would like him to be comfortable and they put him in comfort care.  Said he died immediately.  That told me he wanted to go.  It's been hard so family was here most of the night.  My daughter said she felt it was best also.  I feel if he had the pacemaker in a few years ago maybe this would of never happened.  Can't help someone if you don't know what's wrong.  Never said pain or anything else.  If my GP could have told me I know I would of gotten him to the cardiolgist.  

[azgal]

@kismet I'm so sorry to hear about your husband.

May God bless you and your family to get through this difficult time.

[Mom2Dogs]

@kismet   So sorry for the loss of your husband.

[Terrywu]

Condolences on the death of your husband.  Prayers for you and your family.

[RedTop]

@kismet 

My sincere condolences to you and your family in the loss of your husband.  Please seek peace in the fact your husband passed peacefully and quickly; he was indeed ready to let go.  

Perhaps at some point you can request information from the cardiologist's office from your husbands last appt in order to know what the Dr. said/suggested.  While it sounds like your husband might have received medical information he chose to ignore, I am sure he well understood the risks when he made his choice.  

My mother and my husband are in declining health situations and accept things as they are, well-knowing the end result.  I accept that as their choice for their life, and don't think in terms of what if they had done this or that treatment; I respect their decision to live the rest of their life on their terms, and support them as best I can.  

May your heart be filled with peace.