Wellness

[tarsmom]

 I am 62 and sensitive.  I have a love/hate relationship with it.  I feel for people, I cry at commercials, but there are times I don't feel like that at all.  At work, if I compare myself to others (work-related) I cry because I can't go as fast as the others (computer work).  I can't retire for 2.5 years yet.  You know, I don't know whether I need counseling, medication or just say "I am what I am and God made me to be a sensitive person".  Do any of you struggle with your sensitivity?  Looking back on my life, I cried in high school, most of my jobs and I guess it really boils down to comparing myself to others.  In today's work world, you're not there because they 'like' you, you're there to perform a service.  Numbers are everything.  Relationships (which I excel at) are not a tangible measurement of value.  I was a manager for 20 years and did well at it but took a lesser paying job a year ago.  I love young people and don't think of myself as 'old' but it is darn hard to work with 20-30 somethings (even though I do enjoy them).  I'm not a grandma, I'm not 22, I don't know where I fit - do any of you feel like this?

[sligo]

@tarsmom, I am overly sensitive. Wish I were a stronger person. Feeling easily earth. Forgive but unable to forget. I do try. My daughter has said I even cry at TV weddings. I am what I am. God isn't finished with me yet. HANG IN THERE WITH MR>.

[qualitygal]

I call it another life transition.  You could be mourning your loss of your younger self, even though you're the same person.  It's OK.  It's a process.  Pretty soon you'll see how freeing the aging process is.  Little by little, try to take it your stride.  Forget "expectations" of you and others, what is, just is.  Some things in life we can change, this isn't one of them.  JMHO.

[jackthebear]

perhaps talking to someone might help you figure all this out 

[151949]

You don't say what you do for a living. In my job - or any job dealing with the public - crying at work would have been addressed by my superiors and you would be sent to see the psychologist. That just  could not be at work. Don't your bosses or your co workers address this with you? 

[Laura14]

Not sure it's sensitivity but rather frustration mixed with insecurity.  We all get frustrated but taking a breath and just giving yourself a break especially at work to say this is what I can do and how I can do it and they still keep paying me so I must be okay in the people's eyes that matter.  Forget everyone else.  

And as far as the younger set, they go home and cry over boys and girls who they won't even remember in six months as if it's the end of their entire world because they aren't even close to having the wisdom and maturity you have already garnered.

Give yourself a break.  You sound like a lovely person and you can only do your best just like everyone else in this world no matter how old they are does too.  

[bonnielu]

My grandmother used to watch t.v. and cry at everything.  She said "it was all true." I tried  my best to tell her it was a story but she continued to believe.  Personally those who are sensitive should be proud of how they are and how they see the world. My grandma was a good person

She handed out food and money to those in need and she singlehandedly swept the sidewalks and streets so no one would get hurt.  I agree, a little over the top, but I would rather be like her than many people out there who are only out for themselves and their agenda. 

[Harpa]

I am very empathetic. I have had to learn to "detach" and trust -- Pro. 3:5-6

Most musicians are sensitive. But I have also learned to detach from myself and rather put all the emotion into the music when playing.

Though the Lord made us with certain proclivities, it's up to us to learn how not to take some things so personally.

After all....

[Pook]

@tarsmomI'm not normally that sensitive on a day to day basis but certain situations make me loose it.  Animal stories - both sad and happy endings and weddings and funerals (even when I don't know the people).   My sister was an organist and played for weddings and funerals at church and I used to go with her.  There was a balcony for the organ and choir but even out of sight I used to be the one who would involuntarily let out a suppressed gaspy cry that started everyone down below crying. 

Inwardly when I worked I would take some things to heart and would be bothered by things that I was too sensitive about though.  

I say accept it, even joke about it and just be yourself.  We are different.  Maybe a few sessions with a counselor could help.

[mistriTsquirrel]

Counseling sounds like it would be something to consider.  Just keep it in mind that the first counselor you see may or may not be the one for you.  If the first one doesn't seem to be a match for you, don't give up.  There are others out there.  

I look for someone who is knowledgeable, trustworthy and interactive.  There are many out there who will just listen and nod, but there is no point in paying for that.  I prefer someone who gets me to think about things I need to think about in new ways.