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[Kardi]

Many times I’ve wished to be less sensitive to the things said to me by others or just feelings stirred by watching a sad movie.  I would admire those who could just let things go and seem to continue without missing a beat.  Now I accept that there are all sorts of folks in this world and thank God some of us care very deeply about many things other than ourselves.  Not being able to feel empathy at all is called sociopathy.  Feeling for others is a good thing.  Not being able to handle criticism and taking it to heart too much can be a lack of confidence in oneself.  Sometimes we need to love ourselves more and not be so tough on ourselves.  

[LindaSal]

@tarsmom   I'm not sure of your age but in my experience I feel hormones have a lot to do with our emotions.    That dreaded time in your life when everything physically is changing and we find ourselves on a different part of our journey.   Even if you're not there yet, these changes occur in our personalities over  time.   I too, cry for silly reasons sometimes, and yes at weddings and funerals.........but I feel it's okay as long as it doesn't consume you.  You are allowed to have emotions, as long as you feel it is within normal limits, everything will be fine.  I am basically a happy person and feel that I do my best, that is all that one can expect from us.

[LindaSal]

Sorry I just realized that you do mention your age, well there you go, I am 57

[IMW]

Maybe counseling might help. Just talking to someone- 

and figuring out how much of these feelings are “normal “ for you.

Additionally, speaking to an md re perhaps an anti anxiety rx.

Take it one day at a time - you are not alone. That age is can be a hard one in the work world, although upon retiring it is a whole wonderful new ballgame.

I wish you the best.

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@tarsmomwrote:

 I am 62 and sensitive.  I have a love/hate relationship with it.  I feel for people, I cry at commercials, but there are times I don't feel like that at all.  At work, if I compare myself to others (work-related) I cry because I can't go as fast as the others (computer work).  I can't retire for 2.5 years yet.  You know, I don't know whether I need counseling, medication or just say "I am what I am and God made me to be a sensitive person".  Do any of you struggle with your sensitivity?  Looking back on my life, I cried in high school, most of my jobs and I guess it really boils down to comparing myself to others.  In today's work world, you're not there because they 'like' you, you're there to perform a service.  Numbers are everything.  Relationships (which I excel at) are not a tangible measurement of value.  I was a manager for 20 years and did well at it but took a lesser paying job a year ago.  I love young people and don't think of myself as 'old' but it is darn hard to work with 20-30 somethings (even though I do enjoy them).  I'm not a grandma, I'm not 22, I don't know where I fit - do any of you feel like this?

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[RedTop]

I am, but not at all to the degree mentioned.  I was more sensitive as a child, but grew out of it. 

I am not one to get my feelings hurt easily by others remarks; I do not wear my heart on my sleeve.   

[hckynut]

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[Ibby114]

Certain things- yes. I cannot watch the ASPCA commericlals !!! And I still  get emotional during certain movies. But with most things, not really. From the many ups/downs I've experienced I've learned to take life's complications in stride, one day at a time as they say.

[tsavorite]

Yes I am....I just cried at the movie theater today!  Saw "I Can Only Imagine" and it touched me as does the song and many other songs from Mercy Me do.  All I could think of was my Mom....Sister...and one day myself being there worshipping GOD....I lost it!  

I wish I wasn't so emotional....but I can't remember a time I wasn't.  Lot's of funerals in the past yrs and just recently a very young girl's (family relation) just broke my heart.  Life is fragile...

Don't feel bad about being emotional or moved with sympathy/empathy for others....I figure my life's past experiences have brought this out in my personality.  

My friend was with me today and she didn't get emotional LOL we are all different...it's ok.

[tarsmom]

some of this is grief I believe.  I miss my parents.  My son lives out of state.  I'm lucky to still have my husband - I know this.  At this age, people die - it's part of life but the celebrations, gatherings, holidays, etc. are no longer the same.  My mom and brother died 6 years ago.  My sister in law died last year.  Two close coworkers passed two years ago.  It's just hard - the thing is at this point how can I change when I've been like this always?  Maybe just accept it - feel the sadness and then the sun comes out again.  I do practice being grateful too - after all - there's always something to be thankful for.  My mom and I were close and we did a lot of fun 'girl' things together.  Shopping, I did her hair, going out to eat, just talking.  I'm sure you've all had your share of loss as well.  

Thanks for your comments