@CelticCrafter wrote:
@151949 wrote:
All my married life my DH the semi hoarder would have to go away every spring for a week long sales conference so I would take a weeks vacation that week and spring houseclean. It was best he was away because I would go through every cabinet , drawer and closet in our home and really throw away a lot of stuff. I would put the trash bags over at our neighbor's house so he didn't realize I was throwing so much away. He never missed any of it. The only area I did not clean was his garage. When we moved it , literally, took him 2 months, working every day, to get that garage cleaned out. That was the first time he had cleaned it in 28 years. I had NO sympathy. Now I am seeing signs of our new house's garage starting to accumulate so I go out there and start organizing and when he sees me in his "things" (junk) he is almost crazy to get me out of there, so he comes out and helps me get it cleaned up. He goes thru the trash bags and takes out every item I threw away - things like empty spray cans and empty containers of stuff like car wash soap and if he finds even one drop in there - back on the shelf it goes.
@151949 I don't know if going through the trash is a man thing or a hoarder trait but my husband is the same way. He could be a serious hoarder if I allowed it.
When I do get rid of something, I make sure I do it the day the trash can gets put to the curb.
@CelticCrafter
@151949
Ladies, lets start a club or a support group, or something!
My husband is almost so bad he would save the sock lint if I didn't watch him!
And for those chronic 'savers', it might be tolerable, if it was clean, orgainzed, put away and easy to access what you want, when you want it.
But that just doesn't happen, does it?
I can't control what he does in his barn, but in the house and my garage, I pitch it. Do it when he isn't looking, hide it in the middle of the trash, or get it just before the truck comes. I don't apologize for it, don't feel guilty for it, and also try not to let it be something I constantly nag about. Jut doing it, without the nagging seems to keep the harmony (until he misses something, then the reply is simply "I don't know").
It's a matter of survival around here.