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Re: Why are the terms frumpy, dumpy , matronly ...

I hate the term "" like grandma's."" The people using that term can't even hold a candle to my grandmother. It is so offensive to me I refuse to buy anything with that sales pitch. That includes macys new commercial returning the sweater ""grandma"" gave you for something good.
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Re: Why are the terms frumpy, dumpy , matronly ...

On 12/29/2014 happy housewife said:

always used on this BB with the phrase old lady?

They just use them to feel superior like they are such fashionistas, HAHAHA! I'd love to see pictures of all these perfect, phony snobs!

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On 12/29/2014 gonnab said:

Being of a "matronly" age, I take personal offense when I hear or read these words. At age 78+, I don't even consider myself as an "old lady", or dumpy, or frumpy. I am "experienced, worldly, and smart", although somewhat worn, wrinkled and grey - but - I paid for every one of those wrinkles and grey hairs and I am proud of them!!! And a word to those who may describe me as an old lady - with the help of God, you too will someday be an old lady. It would be a good thing to keep that in mind.

I'm 74 myself and I applaud you! Don't forget, those of us of mature age also get Discounts on many things! {#emotions_dlg.thumbup}

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Re: Why are the terms frumpy, dumpy , matronly ...

I think those phrases fit under the category of ""Women are catty creatures"".

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Re: Why are the terms frumpy, dumpy , matronly ...

You don't have to worry about those adjectives if you aren't frumpy, dumpy, or matronly, at any age!!

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Re: Why are the terms frumpy, dumpy , matronly ...

AMEN Anniecamp!

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Re: Why are the terms frumpy, dumpy , matronly ...

On 12/29/2014 mstyrion 1 said:

perhaps for the same reasons people use the terms stripper, showgirl, bag lady, floozy, etc etc when they want to criticize clothes they don't care for. IMO, you can't object to the words frumpy and matronly if you turn around and call other clothes or those wearing them by nasty names.

Some of these terms were used yesterday when talking about an outfit a host was wearing. She has an incredible body and she had the audacity to show it off. Some of the comments were quite mean.

Yes!!!!^^^^^^^^THIS!
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Re: Why are the terms frumpy, dumpy , matronly ...

On 12/31/2014 SoftRaindrops said:
On 12/29/2014 mstyrion 1 said:

perhaps for the same reasons people use the terms stripper, showgirl, bag lady, floozy, etc etc when they want to criticize clothes they don't care for. IMO, you can't object to the words frumpy and matronly if you turn around and call other clothes or those wearing them by nasty names.

Some of these terms were used yesterday when talking about an outfit a host was wearing. She has an incredible body and she had the audacity to show it off. Some of the comments were quite mean.

Yes!!!!^^^^^^^^THIS!

I think they do it intentionally to offend people and attempt to escalate their own fashion taste. People who have such limited ability to describe what specifically they find unattractive about an item certainly don't convince me they have any fashion sense!

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Re: Why are the terms frumpy, dumpy , matronly ...

Well said! Me too! I hate being referred to as old or older because in my mind I'm not!! I love fashion but am careful to wear clothes appropriate for my age and body! Love Lori G, George S, Nicole R and more. Welcome to my club!
On 12/29/2014 gonnab said:

Being of a "matronly" age, I take personal offense when I hear or read these words. At age 78+, I don't even consider myself as an "old lady", or dumpy, or frumpy. I am "experienced, worldly, and smart", although somewhat worn, wrinkled and grey - but - I paid for every one of those wrinkles and grey hairs and I am proud of them!!! And a word to those who may describe me as an old lady - with the help of God, you too will someday be an old lady. It would be a good thing to keep that in mind.

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Re: Why are the terms frumpy, dumpy , matronly ...

Some of these posts make me laugh. I am a Grandma, not a GiGi, Mimi or known by some other name to avoid the grandma term. I don't care if you call me frumpy, dumpy or grumpy. All this vain stuff and one upping each other in fashion and make-up and hair color or styles is crazy and NOT important. Over the years, I have come to realize that life, family and relationships are important. Nothing else matters. We are out of high school.