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[NC Bandwagon]

@happygolfcartrider, you're welcome. And sometimes if it gets to be too much, just take a break from the forum, then come back when you're ready.

@maryebrown, thank you. It took me awhile to get that. I don't think I ever really grew a "thick skin" as many say you need to have when you post here. But I do think I grew a conditioned skin when posting here.

[Crisso]

On 3/30/2015 golfcartrider said:

On 3/30/2015 Crisso said:

On 3/30/2015 golfcartrider said:

On 3/30/2015 seaside shopper said:

On 3/30/2015 golfcartrider said:

I don't know about fake posters but I do know one thing for sure, there are a lot of snobs on these boards.

OhOh... Did your "Be Oh So Nice" coupon expire?? Just joking

I was not being naughty, I was being honest and I will continue to be oh so nice as you put it. There are a lot of snobs that think they rule the boards and whether one is being naughty or nice they always have a come back. Posters like myself just can't win. I brought out the snark with nasty comments and now I bring out the snark with oh so nice comments. Go figure.

I applaud the new you!

Thank You Crisso!

It took a while to figure out if you were sincere - can't blame a girl because it was a big change. Good for you!!

[happygolfcartrider]

On 3/30/2015 Crisso said:

On 3/30/2015 golfcartrider said:

On 3/30/2015 Crisso said:

On 3/30/2015 golfcartrider said:

On 3/30/2015 seaside shopper said:

On 3/30/2015 golfcartrider said:

I don't know about fake posters but I do know one thing for sure, there are a lot of snobs on these boards.

OhOh... Did your "Be Oh So Nice" coupon expire?? Just joking

I was not being naughty, I was being honest and I will continue to be oh so nice as you put it. There are a lot of snobs that think they rule the boards and whether one is being naughty or nice they always have a come back. Posters like myself just can't win. I brought out the snark with nasty comments and now I bring out the snark with oh so nice comments. Go figure.

I applaud the new you!

Thank You Crisso!

It took a while to figure out if you were sincere - can't blame a girl because it was a big change. Good for you!!

Thank You, the "new" me is the real me.

[ROMARY]

What seems often sad to me are real posters who are stuck in real (sometimes bizarre) situations. We each have our own advice/suggestions, etc. Hopefully, we have been helpful. Or at least have given them a variety of options, so they can at least move toward/try another option.

[Bird mama]

If any of the posters who feel ignored ever feel like joining the established AM Style chat thread, your are welcome. Some of us have been posting together for years, however we are a nice group and welcome new posters.

The only 'rules of engagement' would be - we don't bash or get ugly with each other or about the host.

I've felt ignored on many threads myself and sometimes my post ends up being the last one in a thread. I usually think to myself - geez, do I have bad breath or something lol.

[dooBdoo]

On 3/30/2015 NC Bandwagon said:

On 3/30/2015 golfcartrider said:

On 3/30/2015 seaside shopper said:

On 3/30/2015 golfcartrider said:

I don't know about fake posters but I do know one thing for sure, there are a lot of snobs on these boards.

OhOh... Did your "Be Oh So Nice" coupon expire?? Just joking

I was not being naughty, I was being honest and I will continue to be oh so nice as you put it. There are a lot of snobs that think they rule the boards and whether one is being naughty or nice they always have a come back. Posters like myself just can't win. I brought out the snark with nasty comments and now I bring out the snark with oh so nice comments. Go figure.

Try not to let it get you down too much, golfcartrider. I briefly went through the same thing as you. I just use the ignore feature on QVC and then I don't have to see their posts. And you don't have to be "Oh So Nice."

I've now learned on this board that with some of the posters, if they don't like you or have something against you, there's not much you can do to change that.

If you try to get tough with them, they'll say you're being cold, non-compassionate and full of yourself.

If you try to be nice, they'll say you're being passive-aggressive and playing innocent.

If you say nothing, they'll make comments about you being a loon in a mental asylum and think, "the doctors finally gave you your medication to calm you down and kept you away from the computer." (not making fun of mental patients, by the way, but those are some of the comments I used to see)

So if anyone starts snarking at you, just put them on ignore. I know you can still see the posts if they're quoted, but I guess it's better than nothing.

NCB, that's an excellent post! I would add something else...

Sometimes, if we try to stick up for someone we find ourselves vilified because we don't stick up for everyone or see every post. If we're critical of someone, we run the risk of being vilified because we don't criticize everyone or see all those posts.

And any time we comment we run the risk of being labeled as on one "side" or the other of an existing "us vs. them" scuffle going on, often unbeknownst to us.

No one is here 24/7, so we can't possibly see everything or comment on everything. It can be a lose-lose proposition, one reason some of us choose to post less now.

People tend to get very personal and form opinions about each other that sometimes are inaccurate... we only really "know" a poster if we see them all the time when they're here... and none of us can do that. In addition, is it right to judge one another not knowing if a topic is painful to them, or perhaps they're hurting for other reasons? I don't think so.

[dooBdoo]

On 3/31/2015 Bird mama said:

If any of the posters who feel ignored ever feel like joining the established AM Style chat thread, your are welcome. Some of us have been posting together for years, however we are a nice group and welcome new posters.

The only 'rules of engagement' would be - we don't bash or get ugly with each other or about the host.

I've felt ignored on many threads myself and sometimes my post ends up being the last one in a thread. I usually think to myself - geez, do I have bad breath or something lol.

Thanks, Bird mama! I might have to take a look at the thread. That's kind of you to offer.

maryebrown, (Post #175), I remember some of those threads. Perplexing and strange, for sure.

[MomOf4]

On 3/30/2015 maryebrown said:

On 3/30/2015 dooBdoo said:

On 3/30/2015 Q4U said:

The way I look at is that I take posts pretty much at face value but with caution. If someone tells whoppers on line, I have no idea if they are or not.... unless it's exposed in some way and even then, why would I care unless I'm involved? They are the ones that have to live with it, remember it, and turn off their computers and get on with their real lives, such as it is. No one really remembers what they say.

These people are usually very unhappy in their real lives and boosting their "story" on line is their way to feel better about themselves and their lives. Much like those who can't find anything good to say about anyone. They think it gives them power. It doesn't, it just makes the rest of the posters feel sorry for them.

The whole subject is very interesting to me because human nature is worth studying. I find this particular board far more gentle than most others I've been on. I realize it has its moments, but for the most part those who post here are kind, curious and want to discuss a myriad of subjects.

I like it here!

Q4U, Great post, and I like it here, too! I agree with you about studying and observing human nature. I think these quotes say a great deal about those who feel the need to boast about real or imagined possessions and activities:

"Tell me what you brag about and I’ll tell you what you lack." Spanish Proverb

“A bore is a person who opens his mouth and puts his feats in it.” Henry Ford

When all is said and done... each person must live with themselves.

Yes ! There was a poster (on the VP board last year) who posted endless topics/threads about her daughter-in-law, whom she despised, her "saintly Son" (my words, but that was the gist of it since she blamed her DIL for *all things miserable* in his/their life) , and her 'precious baby Grand Daughter' that she (the poster) wanted to get to know, but the DIL disapproved of her MIL. The threads got really weird when the Poster HAD TO BUY DIAPERS for her Grand, using her own money, having to travel in a City she didn't know, and the worst part was the description of their apartment (that the Poster went to visit) complete with tales of The Bedbugs and Fumigating !!!...

OMG, HER DRAMA was endless !!! And *The Regulars* on VP had called her out, many times, about her stories (and the PlotHoles in them). Most of her topics had well over 200 replies/posts on them, before they were finally poofed. The last topic that I saw from her, she was Trolling her Neighborhood, and wanted a certain gentleman to Notice her...because, SHE 'wanted to get to know Him'.

From what I understand, she regularly changed her Nickname here, as she was banned many times, but always returned - in her reincarnations - Plus, she was afraid that her Son/ DIL would read her postings on this forum (and, as a result, would not allow her to be involved in their lives nor their Daughter's life)... Oftentimes, I wondered if it was Real, or merely a concocted story designed to get the attention she desperately craved.

Hi DooB..

Boy does your post bring back memories. I doubt if we will ever know if any of that was the truth or not but it sure was fascinating. She got more "Views" and posts than anyone else both defending and criticizing her.

I hope all is well with you my friend.

[Nancy Drew]

On 3/31/2015 MomOf4 said:

On 3/30/2015 maryebrown said:

On 3/30/2015 dooBdoo said:

On 3/30/2015 Q4U said:

The way I look at is that I take posts pretty much at face value but with caution. If someone tells whoppers on line, I have no idea if they are or not.... unless it's exposed in some way and even then, why would I care unless I'm involved? They are the ones that have to live with it, remember it, and turn off their computers and get on with their real lives, such as it is. No one really remembers what they say.

These people are usually very unhappy in their real lives and boosting their "story" on line is their way to feel better about themselves and their lives. Much like those who can't find anything good to say about anyone. They think it gives them power. It doesn't, it just makes the rest of the posters feel sorry for them.

The whole subject is very interesting to me because human nature is worth studying. I find this particular board far more gentle than most others I've been on. I realize it has its moments, but for the most part those who post here are kind, curious and want to discuss a myriad of subjects.

I like it here!

Q4U, Great post, and I like it here, too! I agree with you about studying and observing human nature. I think these quotes say a great deal about those who feel the need to boast about real or imagined possessions and activities:

"Tell me what you brag about and I’ll tell you what you lack." Spanish Proverb

“A bore is a person who opens his mouth and puts his feats in it.” Henry Ford

When all is said and done... each person must live with themselves.

Yes ! There was a poster (on the VP board last year) who posted endless topics/threads about her daughter-in-law, whom she despised, her "saintly Son" (my words, but that was the gist of it since she blamed her DIL for *all things miserable* in his/their life) , and her 'precious baby Grand Daughter' that she (the poster) wanted to get to know, but the DIL disapproved of her MIL. The threads got really weird when the Poster HAD TO BUY DIAPERS for her Grand, using her own money, having to travel in a City she didn't know, and the worst part was the description of their apartment (that the Poster went to visit) complete with tales of The Bedbugs and Fumigating !!!...

OMG, HER DRAMA was endless !!! And *The Regulars* on VP had called her out, many times, about her stories (and the PlotHoles in them). Most of her topics had well over 200 replies/posts on them, before they were finally poofed. The last topic that I saw from her, she was Trolling her Neighborhood, and wanted a certain gentleman to Notice her...because, SHE 'wanted to get to know Him'.

From what I understand, she regularly changed her Nickname here, as she was banned many times, but always returned - in her reincarnations - Plus, she was afraid that her Son/ DIL would read her postings on this forum (and, as a result, would not allow her to be involved in their lives nor their Daughter's life)... Oftentimes, I wondered if it was Real, or merely a concocted story designed to get the attention she desperately craved.

Hi DooB..

Boy does your post bring back memories. I doubt if we will ever know if any of that was the truth or not but it sure was fascinating. She got more "Views" and posts than anyone else both defending and criticizing her.

I hope all is well with you my friend.

She also said she had a brain injur. I don't think she was fake but in emotional distress of somekind.

[Jova]

Late to this thread, but I vaguely remember a similar topic here a few months ago. I think the majority of posters here are honest and straight-shooters. If there are a few liars, so be it. Such is life on the internet, but this is a good community for the most part. This is one of the few online place where there are women my own age (52) that love handbags, try tons of beauty products only to have them not work, and that I can actually relate to the posters!