Community Chat

[ChynnaBlue]

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@Noel7 wrote:

Really?  Telling on a grown man? And to his parents?  That might be something you do with a child but not a grown man.  My advice is to stay out of it.

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Absolutely this.

He didn't like the conversation, so he left. Did he flip a table over on his way out, or did he just leave? Unless he threatened or harmed someone or broke something, it sounds like all he did was leave because he was offended. I don't know what the topic was, but sometimes removing yourself from a situation that deeply bothers you is the mature thing to do, not the wrong thing.

[ChynnaBlue]

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@cherry wrote:

I would let it go. If anyone should apologize, it's the person who refused to let things drop, when they knew the lay of the land

THe guy is a grown man and his parents can't help what he does

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I agree. THAT was the person who wasn't being respectful or civil.

[sweetee2]

Your son is the one that needs to be spank. Obviously it was not something he didn't won't to talk about, but he kept going. If it were me I would be embarrass and angry for all your hard work for nonething. Did he think he was being funny or what? Poor manners.

[viva923]

The person who stomped out owes the giver of the party an I'm sorry for ruining the dinner party.  

You son should reach out to the upset person to see if they can get together one on one for coffee and just talk and see if this friendship can continue.

[Marienkaefer2]

It sounds like odd behavior coming from an old friend of your son.

What has his temperament been like in the past?

If he was always a bit of a hot head, then in my view his behavior is not altogether shocking.

If however, this kind of behavior could be considered way out of the norm for him, then perhaps there are other issues going on in his life which are affecting him.

Either way, I don't believe that talking to his parents is the right way to go.  Unless, his parents are good friends of yours.  Then you could mention it and ask how he's doing.

I think the suggestion that another poster made of your son reaching out to him at some point is the best one.

[Moonchilde]

Honestly? At this point, since the son was "host" for his friend, it appears he failed all over the place. 

It was his responsibility to steer the evening for *his* friend/guest of honor. If things got heated or inappropriate it was up to him to handle it properly - or alternatively go get mommy to do it.

So there is a deleted or heavily edited post giving further "info" on what actually occurred? Unless I had been in the room when all of this occurred, it does not sound like a situation where I would believe the son's version hands-down. He has a vested interest in coming out smelling like a rose to mommy, and he wants his mommy to tattle to the other guy's mommy. Kindergarten much?

[chrystaltree]

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@sweetee2 wrote:

Your son is the one that needs to be spank. Obviously it was not something he didn't won't to talk about, but he kept going. If it were me I would be embarrass and angry for all your hard work for nonething. Did he think he was being funny or what? Poor manners.

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      Really?   Because I would NOT want to be friends with someone who invited me for dinner and sat idly by while another guest insulted me.  People like that are NOT friends. 

[ladyroxanne]

i would not do anything.  he's the one who should call and apologize to you because the dinner was in your house.  he should apologize for his rude behavior.  it is up to the guys to work out this disagreement. 

[ECBG]

This is a young adult who should know how to speak with a group in a conversation.

It sounds like this young man feels he is "entitled"!

HE owes YOU the apology I would never enable that!

[Moonchilde]

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@sweetee2 wrote:

Your son is the one that needs to be spank. Obviously it was not something he didn't won't to talk about, but he kept going. If it were me I would be embarrass and angry for all your hard work for nonething. Did he think he was being funny or what? Poor manners.

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Um...what?