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[game-on]

You know what I always ask.... who makes the crazy rules anyway?  I think you have been given great advice.... I hope you have a good time and enjoy the wedding. 

[chrystaltree]

I think $200 for the two of you is perfectly fine.  Of course, if you wish, you can give more.  They sky is the limit.  $200 is the minumum that hubby and I give when we give money as wedding gift.

[NicksmomESQ]

   $200 is fine.You should not bust your budget .That is what we give when we attend a wedding.We may give a bit more if we're close to the couple.When giving a gift I also consider if I had to attend an engagement party & or a bridal shower!! There is just so much money I'm willing to shell out!!

[ChynnaBlue]

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@SahmIam wrote:

@Arianny  You give what you can AFFORD and NOTHING MORE. Anyone who tells you it's the "standard" is a fool.....and you know what they say about fools and their money, right?

There is no "standard". There is greed, there is money-grabbing and there are those who love to impress but there is no "standard".  People need to remember this in all aspect of life: do what YOU can afford to do and what YOU feel comfortable with. 

Hugs.

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I totally agree with this. There is NO standard. My best friend got married out of state two years ago and I was the only friend he asked to be in his wedding party with his brothers. I wore a bridesmaid dress on the groom's side and between the dress, the shoes, the airfare, the hotel, and everything else, it cost me over $900 to attend his wedding. I was happy to do so and to be a part of it, but that's a considerable expense for me.

I gifted them the $50 rice cooker on their registry and told them I picked that because my mom and dad got a rice cooker for their own wedding and used it a few times a week for over 42 years before it had to be replaced by my still happily married parents. I wished them a similarly long and happy marriage 

[Arianny]

Thanks for all your responses!  I am going to give the $200 like I planned.  

[viva923]

you give what you can afford and nothing more. $200.00 gift is extremely generous.

[Mistreatedbycs]

$50 per person is just fine.

There isn't any competition as to who gives how much, it's the thought behind it.

If you are looking for an "atta girl", look no further than viewing yourself in the mirror, gifts should come from the heart.

No one will remember anyway and usually when the gifts are open, the amount of money one gives is not mentioned.