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09-21-2016 11:08 AM
My former gym trainer is getting married, I wasn't invited to the wedding but thought a card and some money would be nice.
My friends tell me that I shouldn't be giving him a gift since I wasn't invited to the wedding.
I just thought it would be nice, any thoughts?
09-21-2016 11:14 AM
I gave a gift to a coworker who was getting married yet I wasn't invited to the wedding which I completely understood. A lot of people don't have the money to invite anyone other than family and dear friends.
I say go for it! I think it is beyond gracious and nice of you to do so and I'm sure your trainer will be more than appreciative that you thought of them.
09-21-2016 11:14 AM
If you would like to send a card, that is fine but there is no need for money. You weren't invited to the wedding.
09-21-2016 11:16 AM
You can give a gift to anyone for any reason. In addition, YOU decide the gift.... no one else.
Do what you feel is best in your heart. : )
09-21-2016 11:17 AM - edited 09-21-2016 12:18 PM
@Laura14 wrote:A lot of people don't have the money to invite anyone other than family and dear friends.
If you are spending money on a card and giving it with best wishes, is it any less thoughtful when a gift of money isn't included?
A card is a nice gesture. A gift of any kind isn't expected and in no way should you feel obligated.
09-21-2016 11:19 AM
Do what you want. It's your money. It will make you feel good and make the bride and groom happy. That's all that matters.
09-21-2016 11:19 AM
While you have no obligation of course if you wish to give him a card with some small amount of money you should certainly feel free to do so.
09-21-2016 11:33 AM
@CalMom wrote:
@Laura14 wrote:A lot of people don't have the money to invite anyone other than family and dear friends.
If you are spending money on a card and giving it with best wishes, it is any less thoughtful when a gift of money isn't included?
A card is a nice gesture. A gift of any kind isn't expected and in no way should you feel obligated.
@CalMom Of course not. To me, someone simply saying Congratulations when they hear news of my engagement is a gift. No one has to buy you a card, give you money, a gift, show up at your function, etc.
My point in saying the above and maybe what the friend may possibly be saying is sometimes people feel uncomfortable when they are given a gift and they didn't even invite you to share in the festivities. I think that's ridiculous because there are a lot of reasons why someone has the guest list they do. And this sounds like a client trainer relationship and not someone you would think of to invite to a day when most people pay a lot of money to have you there.
Being a nice person and acknowledging someone's day, however you choose to do it, should and probably will be appreciated no matter what.
09-21-2016 11:35 AM
Gee, give a gift if so moved. That's very nice of you w/o having to be invited. It's the thought that counts.
09-21-2016 11:50 AM
I think it's a lovely idea! A gift is something you give, with no strings attached. It's given from your heart.
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